From the Grads Board... its perfect
Author Muzakcon on the Grads Board... I couldnt have said it better myself!
Well.....no one said it would be easy.....I am 2.5 years post op.....I went from a size 28 to a 4 and the emotional side of this is crazy......
If I am too happy.....too confident......I am looked at as ****y.....stuck up.....arrogant....when none of those things are near the truth.....
If I get too many compliments.......people seemed threatened.....frustrated etc....
If I down play the compliments or respond honestly to them.....Like my old large self....I get accused of trying to gain attention........
They talked about me when I was large....but they weren't threatened by me .....
They still talk about me now..........
I am refusing to down play my weight loss success anymore to make anyone else feel better.....
I was INVISIBLE for 21 years......I have done an amazing thing.....I am successful.....and I am proud..I sat back and watched them "slink" into parties in their little black dresses....and I complimented them, and I envied them........I sat back and watched them go out on dates and I baby sat for them......I sat at the table at the bar alone while they danced and I watched their drinks and held their purses.....
It's my time......If it makes them uncomfortable....I am sorry.....If they feel left out when people compliment and make a fuss over my new and improved self....it's only a tiny taste of what I have felt for years....If they are my true friends and love me.....they will.....HOLD...... MY...... PURSE!!
If I am too happy.....too confident......I am looked at as ****y.....stuck up.....arrogant....when none of those things are near the truth.....
If I get too many compliments.......people seemed threatened.....frustrated etc....
If I down play the compliments or respond honestly to them.....Like my old large self....I get accused of trying to gain attention........
They talked about me when I was large....but they weren't threatened by me .....
They still talk about me now..........
I am refusing to down play my weight loss success anymore to make anyone else feel better.....
I was INVISIBLE for 21 years......I have done an amazing thing.....I am successful.....and I am proud..I sat back and watched them "slink" into parties in their little black dresses....and I complimented them, and I envied them........I sat back and watched them go out on dates and I baby sat for them......I sat at the table at the bar alone while they danced and I watched their drinks and held their purses.....
It's my time......If it makes them uncomfortable....I am sorry.....If they feel left out when people compliment and make a fuss over my new and improved self....it's only a tiny taste of what I have felt for years....If they are my true friends and love me.....they will.....HOLD...... MY...... PURSE!!
Start Weight - 263
Current Weight 135 and making it work for ME !
AMEN !!!! Great post!!! AND SOOOOO TRUE!!!! I remember meeting a friend at a bar and the friend saying it was nice catching up but asked me to leave cause I was slowing down the action!!! I cried for days!!!!
Fitness is not about age or a size -- it's really about an attitude and life style!!!
Life is not measured by the number of breathes we take, but by the moments that take our breathe away~~
It's sad.....really.... very, very TRUE.... but sad that those people can't see us as the same person but love us for having more confidence. But the true friends will forever be happy for you -- thin, fat, ugly, disabled, etc, etc. lol. Those are the people that we need to stick to.
That is like reading my own life story! SOOOO TRUE!!!! Thanks for sharing! ~Sandie~ 
-147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
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