Thanks everyone for the feedback..

All your responses really helped.. I learned a few things. People ( women ) dont know I was heavy before so Im acting like " Hey treat me normal Im just a fat girl"  I guess that tape is still in there... Second I remember doing the same thing to women I would meet that I thought were "better than me" because I was heavy so I turned on the imediate ***** vibe to override my insecurities. I just wanted them to like me because our daughters hang out we would be open to conversations etc. Not best bud's but communication. So knowing I did this before makes me feel bad ... but realize its natural human behavior somtimes to be envious and treat others poorly because of our own insecurities... its happend more and more to me since this started even with people that have HAD the surgery... So... I digress...  thank you all for your wonderful insight.   Night night ...   HUGS