Ill try my best to explain ....

I agree to a point with the others about jealous. I also think that perhaps there is a level of intimidation. You see a person is  put together I think it can add that intimidation factor. To Amy's point is there anything that we could have in common.  Or is what I'm going to say be to her level. Its werid to me how someone can make a judgement on other person without getting to know them.  I know that its common to make that first thought about someone but, really it should not hold much value until you get to know someone.  I say just be yourself and let them deal with whatever their issues are. 

Women are just so crazy with each other sometimes, aren't they? Geesh. No wonder I get along so much better with men (in general) - they just don't harbor any of the crap women do. Be yourself and if they come around, they come around. If they don't, then you can count yourself lucky because you don't need the emotional bag o' stinky 'tude. Sharon

Hi Linda Anne......wow....can I relate to this post!! I feel the same way at times. I can't quite put my finger on it.  I don't think everyone does it but there are sure a few that really do treat me different. Especially the married women. It is like they think I will steal their man. I don't want their men!!! Most of the men aren't worth a second look and I wouldn't go there anyway. I do have values!!  Whatever.....onward I go...I am not going to worry about it. All we can do is do our best. Not everyone is going to like us all the time.  Love ya....oodles of hugs....connie d

I've always found it hard to run with the mom's at school.  There's a pecking order and they let you know where you belong.  It was too much work to get into the club so I always opted out.  I can tell through conversation who I want to be friends with-who's real, so I don't let it bother me.

Me thinks these women see you as a threat!!!! Remember part of our coping when we were heavy was our personality's.. now we are smaller... but still have those same skills... friendly, outgoing...etc. All of a sudden we don't get people by our personality alone. The package does some attracting to, then they find we have these wonderful outgoing personalities.. and think wow....she's to awsome, I have to watch out for her around my man.( and that is what it boils down to.)

Take it as a compliment.... a while back I stopped at a diner for breakfast when I was all dressed up for my sons graduation. I got checked out by quite of few men, however, the best one was the woman who looked at me with resentment as her guy was checking me out. I have never in my life been the recipient of that... I didn't take it bad... I took it as a compliment!!!!

Have a great day.

Linda, I'm sorry you are dealing with this situation.  It can be really hurtful!  Without knowing the situation totally, and seeing as it is a general feeling you are getting from not just one person, but a few or more, I would have to say that I agree with Diamond Girl.  They probably are acting this way because they feel inferior or maybe it is their way of protecting themselves from feeling judged?  Anyone that is or has been heavier, has been judged as a slob or lazy or whatever, like they are not as good of a person or not worthy of being liked or acknowledged by thin people.  So it is probably just their way of not wanting to get close to you for fear that they will be judged or teased or whatever.  I'll bet there are a few of those ladies that dont even know that you struggled with a weight problem previously and think that you are this perfect cute little thin person that is going to look down on them and their imperfections.  From my experience, more often than not, people that have never had to struggle with weight issues, are more likely to judge those that do.  Simply because they have never had to deal with it and dont understand why we dont it under control.  They think it is simple math!  Speaking for myself, that has made me shy away from the perfect looking thin gorgeous Mom's, because I felt like I wasnt good enough to hang out with them or that they were judging me because they just thought of me as a fat lazy slob.  Not sure if I would use "jealousy" as a way to describe it.  They are probably just afriad.  The more they hang out with you, the more your personality will over shadow their false perception! I hope this changes for you!

Linda  My only question is?? How could anybody hate you???? My response would be send them packing remember the saying' Don't hate me because I'm beautiful" :) Jim

Thank you !! You are too kind......................  I think I just wanted her friends Moms to like me cos our daughters hang out..  sigh.. Hugs and thanks