Statistics about marriage and WLS

Im sorry.. just tryin.. I know how hard it is but its better to figure it out now then later. I have to say as a side note, Lisa I havent ever looked at your befores and I am shocked at how far you have come. An amazing job well done.... you are really showing your hard work and how its paying off for you. Hang in there................... you will be just fine! Hugs

Thank you Linda Ann. That means so much to me. I feel like I've come along way and not just in how I look... I've taken an "I'm not putting up with your bull****" attitude. It feels good not being anyone's doormat... some ppl just don't respond well to others not liking footprints on thier backsides any longer LOL.

I have to agree with Linda A, there were problems before you had the surgery and now it's just more pronounced. DH and I had some problems before and I use to "give in" all the time where I WON'T know and he knows it. We have been working on it and it ok. There are times because I'm so stubborn that we have problems but it's never because I'm looking or guys looking at me, he likes when some guy takes a second look. We both are in this for the long hall and we have tons of ups and downs. I would hope that you would give it sometime and try counseling plus the first year of marriage is hard enough but the adjusting to the new you it's a lot for him and you to take in. Good luck.

Lisa I am so sorry You are having a hard time- very sad when a marriage has problems.  Because I do not know all the details I am not positive in whether to commend you for being brave or in asking you to think things through a bit more.  One question you must ask yourself is do you love this man and does he love you?  You married him for a reason and marriage is meant to be forever.  It takes 2 to make a marriage work, sometimes 3 if counseling can be an option that either of you would be willing to try.  I just hope, especially with children involved that if you can work things out, you both give it a try.  If he has abused you or your children then the man is not who you thought he was obviously and I would agree the only option would be to leave.

Best Wishes during all of this hun!

Hugs,

Cheri

Lisa, i'm truly sorry things are going so rough for you in the relationship dept.  If you ever want a mans perspective PM me we can chat!!  time might be good but not more than 48hrs. no communication after that widens the fissures between  you.

Hey Lisa~ I'm sorry that you're having to deal with crud like this, and sorry that I have no advice for you.  Just hugs and emotional support. (((HUGS))) and **SUE**

(((Lisa))) I've got no experience in this area, but just wanted to also offer you my support, prayers, and hugs!

Hi Lisa,

I am so sorry to hear about you going thru this. I know it is tough, having recently broken it off with my fiance. I do agree with some of the posts on here. We do change... our personality's, our outlooks, our energy level... everything......Yes you have changed.... Physically and mentally. If he truly loves you, he will quit blaming it on the surgrey, and truly work on the marriage, which means he will have to look into himself... maybe having a little time to realize what he's missing, and pushing away.... Good Luck..

Hi Lisa,  I'm offering oceans of love and support for you.  This quote seems trite, though has deep layers:  "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain."  You are such an amazing beauty inside and out, and do take care of you, as you definitely are.  Don't know how many kids nor ages, though it's common for them to feel THEY did something wrong;  let them color and draw to expel their emotions--and keep letting them know how very much they're loved.  And you, even at your highest and lowest moments, be feeling all the love and your value and appreciation here.  Sending huge hugs and calming prayers your way amazing lady!  Hugs galore, Patti

Lisa, I'm not married, so no advice to you about that.  I'm just sending you love and hugs! Debi