What the heck????

Connie, I totally understand....I went to church tonight so that I can sleep in tomorrow and I plan to veg out! How are you feeling?  You doing ok??? Debi

Debi....WOW sweetie...love the new avatar. You are so pretty!! I am doing okay. Struggling with family issues but I will keep plugging along. Depression had reared its ugly head!! I am working with my therapist and I know this will pass eventually.  Have a wonderful Sunday.....I sure will make an effort to get to see you soon. I enjoy talking with you.  Hugs, connie d

Hey Debi honey...  Glad you had a good time today - I really would have liked to go, but had a pretty nice day anyway.

As for your issue, I think YOU are the primary person you need to please!  And if you're happy with where you are, then I think YOU should decide to stay there!  Rebound pounds will happen, but who says you can't shed them?  Sometimes I think those nuts really ARE nuts.  I know I stopped seeing mine after 3 months because she scolded me for having SF popsicles!  Suggested eating THOSE would lead me down the road to Haagen Daaz and pans of lasagne!  good grief... You know how people have to advocate for themselves when they have a problem?  I think you need to be strong in your decision to be happy where you are, too!  Let them know that YOU are pleased, that YOU don't want to go TOO low, and you'll deal with those rebound pounds IF and WHEN they happen!  No one said this journey was over once we hit a goal weight.  It's a lifelong challenge to get it off and KEEP it off.  As long as you recognize and accept that, I think you are HEALTHY in mind AND body!!!

Hey Sweetie!!! It would have been great to see you again, but I know gas is $4 and it's a long drive for you!  I'm glad you had a nice day. I'm going to just keep eating like I've been eating and see where it takes me.  I've had so many people tell me that when your body decides it's at it's ideal weight you'll stop losing no matter what.  SF pops leading to Haagan Daaz and lasagna??  I laughed when I read that, then I thought, that's not funny!  Some nut out there is making people feel like they can't ever have a treat because they are so weak that they won't be able to ever control themselves.  That makes me angry!  We already have enough issues revolving around food, weight, skin, fat rolls, mirror images, etc. we don't need some "expert" making it worse!  Good for you for seeing that SHE had the problem not you and not seeing her anymore. I do want to have a "cushion" so that if I gain back 5-10lbs I'll end up right where I am now.  I like where I am now.  I have bones, but I'm not all bones.  I can wear anywhere from a size 6 to a 10 depending on the style and cut.  I like the clothes I've been buying recently and really don't want to grow out of them.  So, I think I will take advantage of the next few months, as they are the last of my honeymoon time, and get a little lower so that I can work on maintaining 140.  I mean, my surgeon told me that he thought I would lose down to 150 and rebound up to 160 and maintain 160.  So, I'm already a success in my eyes! Thanks for the great advice!  You are so right about this being a life long journey!  I'm thankful I have friends like you to be on the journey with.  It gives me peace knowing that I am not walking this path alone, that I am just a part of a crowd of beautiful, amazing people! Love ya, Debi

It's so frustrating that so many professionals have so many opinions.  And just remember they are opinions at this point.  Let yourself be happy where you are!  Besides, you are only 6 months out and there is a good chance that you will lose more so it might happen regardless of what you think.  I strongly believe that your body has a natural spot where it feels happy and it will stop there when it gets there.  AND BTW - you look fabulous - I'm so glad you made it to Stillwater yesterday - you looked great!

Tracy, You looked so great yesterday.  I can tell a huge difference since I saw you last at the lodge!  And I do agree that your shorts were too big!  What you see and what the rest of us see are two different things.  You look beautiful! Debi

My Dr and Carol, his nurse, never set a weight goal number. In fact, they said if I lost 65% of my weight, that would be successful. Well, I passed that, but I'm maintaining at 153-155.  I'd darned happy with that and so is my saggy body.  I think that if you are happy with your image and feel good, that should be what counts.   Losing to make for a rebound that may or may not happen sounds backwards to me! You DO look great.  As we said at coffee, we can't even picture you as ever being heavy.  I say thumb your nose at the NP and listen to your inner self (unless it is like my inner self, who is sometimes naughty).

Linda, I'm so glad I got to finally meet you!  You are so sweet and funny and I look forward to seeing you again soon, I hope! It just surprises me so much when I see people's before pictures and then try to figure out who they belong to!  I like thumbing my nose at the NP.  I didn't like her at my 2 week post-op, liked her even less at my 3 month post-op and (shocking) I like her even less at my 6 month post-op!  I will not see her again.  If I can't see someone else, I'll just go to my pcp-him, I trust. And...why can't I listen to my inner self, even if it's a little naughty?  Sometimes that's the best time to listen to it!!!!! Congrats on the move!  I think you and Edi just might end up having WAY too much fun!!!! Debi

After seeing you at coffee you looked great! It seems alot to want you to lose more weight. You look perfect now. I have to my nut tomorrow and am not looking forward to it. It was great to see and meet you. I wish we could have had more time to talk.

I couldn't believe that before picture was YOU!!!  You have changed so much.  You look wonderful!  Maybe we can meet up at another coffee and get more time to visit.  It was a huge crowd and hard to move around much.  I really enjoy meeting the people I meet on the board.  Some look just like their avatar, and some I would never recognize! You'll have to let us know how your nut appt goes.  Why are you not looking forward to it?  Take care and good luck tomorrow! Debi