What the heck????

I had my 6 month post-op appt today and I saw the NP again...(One of these days I'm going to learn and refuse to see HER!)  Anyway, I told her I'm at my goal weight and want to start maintaining.  She said no.  She wants me to lose ANOTHER 10lbs!  I told her that I'm getting way too many comments about being too skinny, I don't even think I have another 10 to lose (I probably could in sagging skin, but we all know dieting won't make that go away). I spoke to my nut after the NP left and told her what I thought.  She agreed that I don't have 10 to lose, but recommended I consider 5.  She said that at about 9 months to 1 year people start to regain some weight and she wants me to have a little room, because she thinks 140 is a great weight for me.  She said that if I lose 10 lbs I will be considered underweight for my height.  So, I guess I have to lose another 5. I'm not really happy with them right now.  I am finally feeling comfortable at a weight and size.  I mean the surgeon told me 160 - I am 20lbs below HIS goal for me! Has anyone else been told this???  How did you handle it with the doc/nut?  Oh ya, plus she refused to run any labs and said she wouldn't run any until my 1 year appt????  I thought labs at 6 months was a normal thing? Sorry, but I am more than a bit peeved right now!  I love my surgeon, but his NP has just worked my last nerve....Thanks for letting me vent... Debi

Vent away, Deb, vent away!  No point letting the frustration bug you all day.  Some times ya gotta wonder about those 'professionals'. I think you've done a fantastic job working your tool! Your body will ultimately decide the weight you should be. (I really believe this, if you're healthy.) As far as having the labs done--do you feel healthy? I mean, do you think you could be anemic?  Is your hair falling out?  These are just a few things that could indicate problems. If you have reason to think you're low in some nutrients, is there some other doctor who could order lab work? This might give you peace of mind. Other than that--       and (((HUGS))) **SUE**

I feel great and like where I'm at, I'm comfy in my skin (even the hanging stuff)! I'm going to ask my pcp to run the tests next time I see him.  I was low on iron, not low enough for them to put me on extra, but I just wanted to watch it. Sometimes those darn docs can just irritate the heck out of me! Thanks for the hugs you sent, I'm sending some right back at you! Have a great weekend Sue, I plan to! Debi

Hi Debi, I see Dr. Ikrammudin's associate, Dr. Leslie and I have labs due at 6 months.  He gave me a checklist of what he wants done.  We have never talked weight goals.  I have mine but he just talks about being healthy.  His NP, Deb, did tell me that weight tends to rebound and you should go less than where you really want to be.  She rebounded 20 pounds and feels great.  If I rebounded 20, I would totally freak. Are you going to the Abbott group with Dr. Ikramuddin or at the U?  I love the Abbott group.  When you make your next appointment ask to see another NP.  You should be able to see the one you want and who knows better than you, the weight you are comfortable with.   Bonnie

YIKES!!!  I would freak if I gained 20 lbs!  Well, maybe then I guess they may know more than I do.  I knew about rebound weight, but thought it was only like 5-8lbs!  Maybe I shouldn't have given away my size 10's???

It's o.k to vent here!!!  We know the frustration.  You are lookin awsome. When you post I can tell that you post with confidence:)  Keep up the positive attitude.  Let your body tell you when to stop!!!  You have worked sooooo hard to get where you are at today.  And let me be the first to say you impress me:)    PM if you wanta talk. Troy

Thanks Troy. I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing and see when my body decides to stop.  I feel comfortable where I'm at, but I know I could go down a little more. Thanks for the comment about confidence.  I remember when I first started on this board.  I was so terribly depressed and feeling like I shouldn't have had the surgery, I was miserable. I also was having a lot of low blood sugars from the insulin (they never should have put me on), I was alone with no one to help me after the surgery, I didn't have many friends-I was such a loner.  Boy, have things changed!  The people on this board helped me through a very rough time and have given me unconditional love and support!  No wonder I have some confidence now! You are such an inspiration!  Always cheering people on, always there with sound advice! I'm so thankful for you and the rest of my OH friends! Debi

Hello Debi...... Sounds like you have a right to be mad. You need to do what you feel is right for you. If you are comfortable where you are then stay there. Your body will let you know where your weight should be. My doctor said he didn't want me below 135 pounds no matter what. I am 128.  A couple of weeks ago I saw him at a support group meeting. He said as long as I don't go lower them 118 he doesn't have a problem with it. I guess they change their minds too!! After the lecture at 135 I thought he would be mad that I was lower. Go figure???? I feel good right now so I am trying to maintain. I also feel another 10 pounds would be too much. I would freak if I gained more then 3 to 5 pounds....ugh!!! Good to see you....hope to see you in person soon!! Hugs.....connie d

Connie Sweetie, Missed you at Stillwater today.  There were so many of us there, I think Tracy said 23!  We had pictures taken with the owner for his wall.  I met so many beautiful women today!   But missed you not being there! Hope to see you again really soon!! Hugs to you my dear, Debi

Hi Debi....I feel really bad that I couldn't get to Stillwater today. I have done so much driving in the last two weeks I just couldn't drive anymore. Plus the price of gas is a killer!! I am also just too exhausted to go anywhere. I stayed home all day and just relaxed. Sure did miss all of you though! I wish I could have been there for ther pic too!! That is so awesome.....you are all famous now!! Hugs....connie d