Lets make this board what its meant to be

The boys have had multiple offers for leaving their clothes at home and packing away a person, but they always opt for going on vacation with clothes. LOL Remember I didn't want to go (I'm going to be dying in the CA heat since I don't wear shorts yet...), but DH made me...hello, if I would have know it was coffee with Linda or vacation, I would have picked coffee with Linda.

Lin.............I agree with your voice of reason.  You know that I've only been involved here for just over 4 months.  It was so informative and helpful.  And now it seems as if Junior High is prevailing.  Are we adults or are we adults?  Everyone has an opinion and I don't think that one should take things so personally.  This board is not a cat fight but a place where one person can offer another advice....................and, take it or leave it without spouting venom.  Let's all make an effort to get back to the orignal plan for the board.  Let's not ruin a good thing and scare off new people.  You know we can do it.

Hey it's spring...........smile!!

sj

Amen Mummy !!!

I sure miss my Joy We need to get together soon... juan on juan  :)

I am with you Linda.  I've just been so dishearted to see the way the board has been going since I returned.  I was gone several months and came back to a different vibe and it's had me wondering lately why I came back. I agree that people should read with an open mind, take a step back and take in the advice/opinions and not get on the immediate defense.  On the flip side, those that are giving the opinion should also step back and objectively look at the delivery of their opinion....Is it encouraging?  Is it supportive?  Is it loving and not accusatory?  I have wanted to reply or get involved in some of the "debates" before and have come close, but I decided no, I don't want to engage in that and add fuel to the fire.  Have I seen posts that make me cringe when it comes to slow weight loss and "only" losing a pound in a week?  Absolutely...I'm only human!  But I want to make my contribution to the board one that is fair, supportive and encouraging.  My counselor taught me "You can't control or change others, but you can control the way you react to them."  That is so true!  I think that's how we can all get back to the basics of a supportive board that is welcoming to the newcomers that peek in every day and will want to take that big leap and post and ask for advice.  We are here to help, not hurt.  We should all ask ourselves before hitting that submit button..."am I helping or am I hurting?"  (((Hugs))) I love and value and respect you all!  Thanks for posting this Linda!!!  Michelle

So true... your a good egg my dear and I think you have alot to share with us! I think we all expect that we will like everyone on this board because we had the same surgery.

Frankly would I be friends with some if we werent in the same WLS boat?  Heck no... so I take the good with the bad.. be polite but leave it at that. I have a core group that I love and look up to.  YOU are one of them...although you have yet to meet me LOL Hugs and thanks for the input!!

Sure there are some that we bond more close to than others - I think that's just natural in forming friendships. :) And I don't know why the heck we haven't met yet either.  Something is quite whack with that! lol  One of these days!!! (((Hugs))) Michelle

.....beautifully said! Loves and Misses Ya!

I try my best to be supportive and make people look in a different way at what they are doing. Sometimes I think people take things a little personel but thats OK! Have a great day everyone. Jim