Lets make this board what its meant to be

Hey... Good Morning. I have seen so many comments about this board "not being what it used to be"  and I agree full hearted.   Its gone a direction of Jewelery Sales, Dog Finders, Clothing Sales and fighting.

This board is created for MN people looking for support, encouragement and questions answered by those who have been there and done that.  I feel a loss by all the WLS people that have left or lurk and have such amazing information to share.  Its for newbies that are afraid and need some feedback.... are we sending the right message to a new person lurking or are we scaring them away? I have been victim to some nasty sideways comments directed to me by some ... they hurt me too. Im not perfect in anyway...but I try so hard to encourage.. and to be a cheerleader for anyone that asks because anyone can lose this weight.... no one is luckier than others. We have opinions and can express them... if you get angry by someones opinion maybe look inward and see why you have so much fuel behind your response.  If someone expressed an opinion and another said " I cant help but think this is about me"  wow....  how could a person think that one post is completely about them? So....... I digress............. whos with me... Senior WLS' peeps come out of the shadows we need you. Anyone agree with me or shall I just shut up   LOL Hugs to you all... have a great day...make it a good day! Linda

Good Morning Linda Ann,

I totally agree on needing to be supportive, and a cheerleader. We all need a little help now and then. I to would like to see this board go back to what I seen when I first came back on, warm, supportive and helpful.

There will be differences in opinions from time to time, just as some of our doctors give diferent instructions then others. I have heard of many talking about the LD before surgrey. My DR. did not require this. Does that mean my surgeon was wrong, or not supportive? No, it means he had a different program. Does not make his or anyone elses right or wrong... just different. As we all are.

So yes, lets get this board back where it should be. Supportive for the Newbie, and old timer alike.

Good Morning!! I'm a post op of almost 4 years. I couldn't resist saying something about your post. I lurk much more than I post. Recently I've been chuckling while I lurk. The drama on the board has a way of coming and going. In the time I've been around I could name lots of folks who give opinions, get flamed, leave the board and are replaced by new faces. It seems to be the "circle of life". How corny is that???? Linda A., I admire you and thank  you for being a voice of reason. WLS and any type of weight loss is all about following the rules. And while the basic rule is "eat less, excercise more", that can mean different things to differnt people.  Hope you all enjoy the sunshine!!

Well thank you very much... and thanks for replying! Your right... I have been "boarding" for almost three years and people do come and go.... flames... dramas... things do change, just ask the dinasours LOL Hugs and nice to see you!!!!!!!!!!!!

Pat..  How are you? I miss you so much. I miss a lot of the "older" people...  I hope that things are going well for you! Think of you lots!

Jen

I totally agree with you.  Thanks for posting this.  I remember how scared I was when I first came on here and i was so thankful for the support that I had.  Now it is my turn to give it back..... Take care and hugs to all of you......Marsh

Thanks Marsha... you have good info to share!!! Your becoming an old timer too LOL Keep up the good work and fight the good fight!!!!!!!!!!!!

LA - I agree with you, I don't mind the "other" posts but I do wish people would use "OT" (other/off topic) when applicable, in the subject line of their post if it's not a WLS post. I don't see newbies or pre-op's asking questions like they used to either. Why is that? The board has changed and we've lost a lot of GREAT members! I hope they all come back. Everyone brings something good to the board and if they share an experience post-op, I can only imagine how many others may be experiencing a similar thing but nobody talks about it. Why not? If it's out of fear, this was/is the best board to bring it to. I can personally remember learning about OH, lurking for years, and finally being encouraged by a member to post. It was the most freeing thing ever. And the wealth of knowledge was incredible. I was coming from a place where I personally hated being fat. This board made me feel safe and secure enough to talk about it. That's what this board is for, for each member to feel safe and secure about their issues with obesity IMO. Thanks for posting, I miss you on this board!

IM always here...but am trying to give more back and to disregard the haters and realize the jealousy is there personal thing not mine. Thanks for the input...  I still cant believe your chosing vacation over me..........sheesh...  Hey I could go with!!  Best O both worlds LOLOLOL Love ya