Why would she do this???

So for Mothers day I cooked for 14 people and my sister brought a salad and my mom brought the desert.  When it was time to go everyone takes there leftover’s but not my mom.  She would not take her hot fudge syrup and cream puff fill things.  WTF….Since she didn’t bring them home and I can’t have them in the house or I would try and eat the whole damn thing I tossed them out, talk about a waist.  I did have one after lunch and they were soooo good.  I really think she might have been trying to sabotaging me, I know I shouldn’t think that about my own mother but seriously she would try and would even succeed if I had left the food in the house.  She knows I can’t eat the stuff and I don’t want the boys eating it either and we all know that John (my husband) don’t need it so why would she make such a HUGE deal about leaving and not taking it home.   If she had no intentions of bringing it home then why when all the other people were leaving didn’t she offer it to them?   Sorry I’m going on about this, but now I’m mad.   She knows I need to lose another 20 lbs and that I don’t have the will power with things like that in the house. 

I sure know where you're coming from. I don't understand why either. Good for you for throwing them out. A hard thing to do but very necessary. Stay strong & you can get those 20 lbs. in no time.

I don't understand why your mom would do that. I'm really proud of you for throwing them out and being strong.  You are doing the right thing...yes, it was a waste, BUT what would you have done before?  Said something like, well, I can't let that go to waste and then eat them, or feed them to the kids and hubby?  Look at how far you have come! Are you close enough to your mom that once you feel like you are not as angry you can talk to her and tell her how her leaving the dessert there and making such a production about leaving it made you feel? Kudos to you!!!!

It doesn't make sense to me.  Good for you-Getting rid of the temptation by throwing them away-it is a waste, but you did it!  Focus that anger on getting rid of another 20 pounds!!   Keep workin' it! Colleen

Perhaps she is secretly (or not secretly?) trying to lose weight and wanted to have a reason not to bring it home?

Sometimes it is not about sabotage, but simply selfishness...maybe she didn't want the temptation in her house. So next time, tell people up front to bring containers for leftovers, and give it away. Tell them to take it or it will get thrown out. I have found that my family loves to make all kinds of delicious food and no one wants the leftovers. So either we learn to make less or we share and throw the rest away. Try not to look at it as sabotage. Recognize the pattern and take control. We can not be sabotaged if we are up front with our loved ones and say what we need up front. I would throw it out in front of my family to send the message that I am no longer the "garbage disposal." Once you establish a new pattern of behavior they might get the message. Good for you for taking control and not falling into old behaviors!!!

Well said!!!

Tammy,    When I had a relationship with my Mother she would do this, finally I got so pissed off I said, "Take these home." She said, I want the kids to have it. I looked at her an threw it in the garbage.........She got the point.........Didn't happen again......     So sorry this happened to you. I'm glad you threw it away. WTG..... Kelly

Tammy~I have no clue why your mom would do this, but I am very proud of you for putting aside the idea of "throwing away food is wasteful" and putting you and your family's health first and throwing them out.  Perhaps if you let your mom know that you did throw them out and why might help.  I do hope you are able to get through to her that you do not want that sort of stuff around otherwise there is going to be a lot of "waste" going on at your house!  Happy Mother's Day!