Comments that hurt.......LONG

Hey... How about an open invite to us OH'ers to come watch YOU play??????????? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm???

Are you NUTS!!! HE HE HE!  you can come to Lakeville anytime!  Not sure why!! :) Have a wonderful mothers day Linda!! Jim

Cos it would be an outting... fun to watch... and yes Im nuts.   DUH!

Ya know Jim, THANK YOU!!!!  I needed that and soooo true.  YOU are soo needed around here!  You are so wise and I TOTALLY appreciate and WILL take your advice!! Hugs

Sandie....have you been getting my PMs???? connie d

Yep!  LOVE YA!

Sandi you rock also!! Keep up the great job and looking at your height and weight to me, I think you are WAY normal and not  "WAY TOO THIN" as some people have suggested.  Hang in there girlie and this too shall pass :) Jim

Again,Thank you! 

Let me start this by giving all of you who have reached goal a great big, heart-felt CONGRATULATIONS!!   Give yourselves a big pat on the back, hold your head high and try not to let the wet blankets rain on your parade.   All of us here know that there is nothing magical when it comes to WLS – it is hard work – both losing AND then maintaining that loss.  Anyone who says that it’s “the easy way out” simply does not know what they are talking about.

 

 

I also agree that OH is here for support – and I believe that the majority of the folks on here do just that.  All of us coming from the same place, it is hard to understand why some people would “put down” anyone for their success, but there are all kinds of people out there and the green–eyed monster is alive and well.  We need to be here to cheer on the successes and to help when there are those struggling – there should be no room for “put-downs”.

 

 

That being said, I do have a comment (and I really am not trying to upset anyone – as that is not my intention here) BUT…some of the posts seem to be conveying the belief that the people who have not yet reached goal are NOT following the program and are not using their tool correctly - and if they would only do so, then they too would hit goal.  I find this to be a generalization and simply not true.  There are a lot of people who are following the rules, but for some unknown reason never reach that “magical number”.   And then on the other hand, there are people who seem to not follow any of the rules and the pounds appear to just drop off anyway.  We are all individuals and we will all lose at a different rate and pace, depending on factors such as age, metabolism, etc. – Some patients will be able to hit their goal (or even exceed it), for some, goal will continue to elude them - no matter how hard they try, and then some people will have problems keeping the weight on (as crazy as that seems).   Personally I would love to lose 10 more pounds and then I would be simply ecstatic.  I have been following the rules and trying my hardest – and I will NOT give up…I have come way to far to go back -  no way, not an option.  My health has vastly improved - no more diabetes or high cholesterol and no more meds - only vitamins.  I am probably in the best health I have been in for 10+ years -- that was my goal going into this (not the size 8 that I aspire to!!) 

 

I guess the reason for my rambling is just that I know there are a lot of people out there working hard at this and using the tool the way it was intended to be used.  I just wanted to voice that just because someone has not hit goal does not mean that they are ignoring the rules.  Just as you feel the need to stand up for the folks who have been very successful, I feel the need to stand up for all of them who ARE working the program correctly and still cannot seem to reach that certain number (be it pounds or a jean size).

 

Thanx.

 

Thank you Teri!  I guess I did word it in a "generalized" way and for that I am sorry!  I, too, know people who have worked their tool well and not at goal YET.  I think when I said that I was talking about those who have made the hurtful comments NOT the people who are working hard...please except my apologies!   Hugs!