Comments that hurt.......LONG

Sandra N.
on 5/8/08 6:47 am - MN

I AM SOOOOOOO tired of people saying that I am "too skinny" or "must be rough" or "what do YOU have to complain about" and sooooo many other hurtful words! Most have been from family but what kills me the most is to hear it from OTHER WLS peeps! WHAT THE HAY! At first I thought it was just me AND THEN I hear of OTHER dear friends of mine here that are getting the same!!!! I am a big girl and can take it but when I hear that my friends are enduring this too I AM PISSED!!! Funny thing is the people who are getting picked on HAVE followed the rules, are strict in doing so and have had GREAT success and have made it to goal. SOOOOOOOO,(I hate to judge) but I have a feeling that the people that are making these remarks are ones who DO NOT follow the WLS rules, are stuck in the WL game, and instead of kicking their OWN butt(which they should) they are taking it out on someone who has used their tool well! WRONG SO WRONG!! Grow up people!! THIS IS NOT A RACE!! THIS IS YOUR HEALTH! AND who are YOU to tell someone WHERE they should be?!?! EVERYONE is given a tool and should use it WISELY!! ANd you should be HAPPY for your fellow WLS friends on making their goals ESPECIALLY when THEY have worked so hard for it!!! Flame me if ya want but I CARE about people and am sick of the High School crap as stated above! From my own personal experience I can say that I did not do this as a "competition" to see "how small" I could get......IT JUST HAPPENED! I DID AS I WAS TOLD AND BAM MY BODY WENT HERE! It saddens me that some wonderful, caring, people who are working their tool PROPERLY are getting put down and made to feel guilty for their success

~ GROW UP! IF YOU HAVE done so to ANY WLS peep then be a good person and GO TELL THEM YOU'RE sorry! AND remember DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU'D HAVE DONE TO YOU!!!

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

Lindaanne
on 5/8/08 6:56 am - SSP, MN

RNY on 07/25/06

Oh Sandy..... Boy you could have written out my thoughts.... it hurts to much to get those comments. Its like spitting on a persons progress and hard work with jealousy and hurtful comments. To get all this way and then to hear your too thin... or must be rough to be perfect... I have taken my comments about a two pound gain over to the grads board to avoid such comments. Good for you.... thanks for saying somthing that needed to be said. It seems you can complain if you dont have those last "twenty " to ***** about. We need help and support still too... Hugs

Start Weight - 263
Current Weight 135 and making it work for ME !

Sandra N.
on 5/8/08 7:04 am - MN

RNY on 12/12/06

Hey Hon! It's rough being successful as YOU know! It's like let's stone them because they MADE it! DUMB! I have tought skin but when I have a WLS dear friends in tears THAT IS WHEN I WILL STAND UP and FIGHT!! HOW dumb is this!! Ya work your tail off to use your tool CORRECTLY and then get stoned for a reward! WE DO NEED help and support yet and people don't realize it

Loves and Hugs Sweetie!

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

Diane B.
on 5/8/08 12:55 pm - Fridley, MN

RNY on 02/14/07

To the best of my knowledge I never said anything hurtful. I will admit eny, but have never been jelous. I am so happy for people that do make it. I am losing again and may well get close to that myself. You and Linda ann are truely inspirations. and in here and at coffees.. there should never ben hurtful words. It's where we come for support. Not hae a teenage back biting, jelous over the others boyfriend type of thing. My hats off to both of you. You give me hope that I too wil make it. I am relearning how to use my tool. Because I know if I want to make it, I have to work it. Just as you have.

I am not short... I am fun sized!!

Diamond Girl
on 5/8/08 6:57 am - Ham Lake, MN

DS on 12/23/08

(((Sandie))) Thank you for posting this! As a pre-op, I look at a co-worker who had surgery and she has done well. She is what I would consider thin and I found myself once saying "geesh, I wish that were me right now"...color me green, I was jealous. So wrong! Now I just admire her. I admire how she is doing with her tool, I admire the fact that she is always smiling, I admire the fact that she is LIVING life! It is so wonderful to see.

I am going to go out on a limb and say that I do agree with you. I have talked with another member and she has gone through this same thing and it is very hurtful. You come to adore the people on this board and you form what is thought to be a common bond (obesity) and then when one works the tool and follows the program their surgeon gives them, and succeeds, there is NO reason for others to feel cheated. That's not how this works. Weight loss surgery is a tool - no matter which option you choose for the surgical portion. You do have to follow rules and you do have to keep it at the forefront of your mind. I imagine it gets easier in time where it doesn't consume so much of your thoughts but at first, it does. You've changed physcially, mentally, emotionally. There is a lot to go through. But it has some wonderful rewards, doesn't it?! Sandie, may God continue to bless you! I personally think you look wonderful and you know what, let it all out today and then show the world what you've got tomorrow! You're worth it! Love you.

Sandra N.
on 5/8/08 7:09 am - MN

RNY on 12/12/06

Thanks Amy! I am good, just shocked that FELLOW WLS peeps can be that harsh, cruel and down right caty! I don't care what people think of me so I was speaking up for a fellow WLS peep who is new to getting these comments......SO SAD that someone could stoop so low as to be so bitter and say such hurtful things (

TISK TISK)..... Thanks Hon! Loves to you!

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

Lisa B.
on 5/8/08 7:02 am - Independence, KS

RNY on 10/12/07

Very well said

Hugs ~ Lisa
Well behaved women rarely make history!
305/296/147/150 159 pounds down 3 lbs below goal!
Highest weight/day of surgery/current weight/goal weight

Sandra N.
on 5/8/08 7:10 am - MN

RNY on 12/12/06

THANK YOU! And LOOKY you! Wonderful Avatar!! Miss ya being around! Hope all is well! Hugs!

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

Lindaanne
on 5/8/08 7:12 am - SSP, MN

RNY on 07/25/06

Lisa that is the sweetest picture... ( avatar) Hugs

Start Weight - 263
Current Weight 135 and making it work for ME !

Connie D.
on 5/8/08 11:33 am

RNY on 08/29/07

HIJACK... Lisa I love the new avatar....what a great pic!! Hugs, connie d

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