back from TN... update on mom

First, I am so sorry I have not been on to support all of you in awhile. I do think of you all often and wish you well. Everyone here is so GREAT!!! Well, I went to Tennessee to see an be with mom. It was a tough trip. Mom is not doing good. She has mets to the breast bone. I think I told you that. She may also have mets to the brain (she is displaying symptoms of that). They did an MRI of the brain but she was moving too much and did not get a clear pic. They want her to do it with sedation; but we declined. We already pretty much know that it's a strong possiblility, and don't want to put her through that. Anyway, we did end up putting her on hospice. I was fortunate enough to be there for the intake/set up of hospice. I think my dad was relieved I was there for all of this.

The hardest part was that the decision to NOT do chemo and radiation was placed on me. Even the doctor/oncologist spoke mostly to me during the meeting. When it came to making the decision both my sister and dad looked to me to make that choice. A part of me wanted to see if chemo would give us a few more months. BUT, the nurse in me knows that there is NO way she could handle it. And, just getting an extra 5-6 months with her, is not worth putting her through that.

I just can't believe that we had to have the conversation about what to do with her ashes... she's not gone yet! I had to fight back the tears when the social worker was asking those tough questions. I kept telling myself, "my family needs me to be the strong one." I now know what my patients family members have to go through. This is not easy; but with all the support of my awesome friends and family, I can get through this.  Thanks for all your support here. I really appreciate it. I will try to get on more often. I know that I am so behind.  One thing I want to say for sure.... CONGRATS TO LUCY AND RANDALL!!! Holy cow... I can't believe I missed that one. When is the wedding? Please let me know. Lucy, are you already moved to Alabama? I'm sorry I missed the details.

Love ya all!!!

Lori

 

 

(((((((Lori)))))) I'm very sorry about your Mother.  I am praying for peace and comfort for her and your whole family through this difficult time. Michelle

Thanks Michelle!!! I hope things are well with you.  Hugs, Lori

((((LORI)))) Hugs and Prayers for you and your family!! Peace and Comfort to overflow your mom and your family and you! HUGS

Thank you Sandie!!! Hugs, Lori

Lori, I am so sorry to hear that things are not getting any better and that you had to make such a tough decision for your mom.  I will keep you, your mom and your family in prayers for peace and comfort during this difficult time. Love & Hugs, Nicole

Thanks Nicole!!!!  Love and hugs back at ya! Lori

Hey Lori,

I am sooo very sorry for this. I know how hard it is to watch a parent go thru this. My thoughts and prayers will be with you.

Thanks for the thoughts and prayers!! Hugs, Lori

Oh Lori!! I have been thinking about you lately and wondering what has been going on with you!!  I am soo sorry for what you are going through!! I know it is difficult!!  I didn't know you made a trip nack to TN.  I know you were saying you would be going.  I must have missed you saying when you were going!!  We really have missed you around here!! If you need anything, let me know!!! Yeppers, I am engaged!!!!!!  We are getting married Sept. 27, 2008.  In Alabama!!!  I will be moving there in September!! I am very very happy and excited!!  Randall is an awesome man and a wonderful person!! I am absolutely in love with him!!!!  I can't wait to marry him and to be his wife!!!    There is a possible road trip in the works, if you are interested in coming to the wedding. I love ya and am praying for you!! Here are the links: http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/MN/a,messageboard/action,r eplies/board_id,4825/cat_id,4425/topic_id,3591021/ http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/MN/a,messageboard/action,r eplies/board_id,4825/cat_id,4425/topic_id,3590262/