Just my thoughts........

NicoleLynn
on 4/18/08 6:07 am - Minneapolis, MN

Thank you. I am still learning that what I have to give is good and that I don't need to be someone else or constantly compare myself to others (Which I still do a lot). It is hard when self discovery doesn't start until age 27! I spent most of my teenage and early 20's behind a mask that kept changing and didn't know who I was let alone what I had to offer. Thank you for your help in this area as well, listening to Mary a couple of weeks ago helped a lot and I am really hoping I can get to hear/meet her again!

"When you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you."

Darla S.
on 4/18/08 6:19 am - Maple Grove, MN

RNY on 04/27/07

I've been pondering stuff, too. And here's what I think. We can't change the way people feel - about themselves or anyone else. All we can do is tell them how WE see and feel about things. Where they're at in their minds and hearts will determine how they take it. Michelle is very right, in that this form of communication leaves much to be desired - misinterpretations can happen very easily. Either we care enough to seek and/or offer clarification, or we don't. And sometimes, we just have to take the things people say at face value! Respect what they say, stop looking for hidden meanings, and move on. We are all here to support one another, but each individual has to be at a place in their healing - because we are ALL healing - where they are willing to make this as positive as it can be. OH - this MN board in particular, is a God send to many of us. But it probably can't be "all that" for everyone.

Imperfect does not = unsuccessful

Sandra N.
on 4/18/08 6:29 am - MN

RNY on 12/12/06

Soooo TRUE! Brings to mind yet another saying (I believe we can apply it to WLS, also) "You can lead a horse to water (having the surgery) but you can't force it to drink (using the tool correctly)"

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

(deactivated member)
on 4/18/08 6:33 am - Blaine, MN

RNY on 05/30/07

Very well said Darla! I agree 100%!

Frozen_Peach
on 4/18/08 7:15 am

DS on 05/13/08

Darla - you know first-hand that I'm dealing with just such an issue here but I also told you I do realize it is *MY* issue.....

one of these days I will get past it.....but I'm a stubborn gal from the South and I just can't let it go yet.....

but you guys are the best here - I LOVE this board!!!! Would be lost without it!!

~HUGS~

I MY DS

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Darla S.
on 4/18/08 7:27 am - Maple Grove, MN

RNY on 04/27/07

Peach, you WILL get beyond it, once you realize it isn't doing you any good. You already see that. But I apologize for my BLUNDER a couple weeks ago (?) when I misplaced credit. I know I didn't say so, but I kicked myself all the way home that day, and then some. I love you to bits. We're still DANCING tomorrow, right???

Imperfect does not = unsuccessful

Connie D.
on 4/18/08 6:27 am

RNY on 08/29/07

AMEN!!!! What a great post!! You are anything but a person to cause hurt or pain to anyone. I love your support, your spirit and you dear friend. I too hope I haven't hurt anyone....if I have I am so sorry. Hugs, connie d

Sandra N.
on 4/18/08 6:31 am - MN

RNY on 12/12/06

"You are anything but a person to cause hurt or pain to anyone. I love your support, your spirit and you dear friend." Ahem! Yet another "Hello Kettle, I'm Pot!"

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

(deactivated member)
on 4/18/08 6:39 am - Clear Lake, MN

RNY on 01/03/08

Sandie, Very good post. I love this board. My life and WLS wouldn't be as good without it. You're posts and others had helped me beyond words. No one had ever stepped over any line with me. It's been so supportive & caring & heartfelt. I also hope I have not offened anyone. I try and give advice if I can or support. Have a wonderful weekend, Kelly

Sandra N.
on 4/18/08 6:51 am - MN

RNY on 12/12/06

"I try and give advice if I can or support"........ That's all we should do! And as I told Nicole, You may not realize ALL you do give here that inspire, encourage or motivate someone! HUGS!

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

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