Temptations

I was craving something sweet all day and had planned to stop by the grocery store on my way home from the gym tonight to pick up some SF ice cream, but when I got to the store and looked at and really thought about it and how addicting it was the last time I bought it I put it back and instead picked up some ff feta cheese for my salad .  After dinner I made myself a strawberry/banana/mango smoothie to cure the sweet tooth I had and I was suprised that it worked.  I am trying really hard to be good, but the nights are really tough and I find myself struggeling every night.  Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get through nights when all I want to do is snack?  I am frustrated that I am only 4 months out and I am having problems sticking to the plan, I am so afraid of failing.  I am afraid that I will end up stuck at the weight I spent much of my life at.  I so want to be successful, I wish the RNY came with a lobotaomy!

Hey sweetie - if you re-read your post, you kind of answered your own question!  How to get through nights when all you want to do is snack?  Think about how EVIL things can be, and make choices that won't fill you with guilt!  Celebrate the GOOD choices you make, EVERY TIME YOU MAKE THEM!  Every time you reach for something not so good for you, ask yourself - do I really need this?  If you consider NEED vs. WANT, you'll probably almost always put it down!   EVERYONE is afraid of failing, of being THE ONE that blows his/her WLS.  Sometimes, fear is a good thing. Just don't become obsessed by it.  Focus on the positive.  Celebrate the successes - become ADDICTED to all those steps you take in the right direction!!! Damn, that's pretty good - I should write that down... 

I know that I made the right choice last night, it is just hard sometimes for me to see the good things I am doing when the temptations are crowding my mind.  I feel like I should be able to kick the old habits and be healthy.  I am hoping that this fear can be tamed, perhaps a good couple of days with all good decisions will help.

I agree - I definitely wish our brains would get fixed with this surgery - unfortunately we're forced to be left to our own devices - but that doesn't equal failure.  I agree with Darla - you made really good choices and you need to be proud of that and recognize the hugeness of those choices over the not so good ones. On the other hand, just remember that when you do make a not so good choice - that doesn't mean you're a failure either - it just means you made a not so good choice and next time you can make a better one.   I completely understand your fear of failure - I'm really struggling with it right now with my insatiable appetite for junk food - I won't let it happen though - I will succeed and so will you.  Stay positive and make sure to reward yourself more than you beat yourself up! Love ya!

I think part of why I am so scared is that I hear of people starting to struggle with this, but they are way farther out than me and so I am scared that if I am having problems at 4 months what will 6, 9 or 12 months look like.  I am going to start keeping track of days when I make all good choices and after a week straight I will reward myself with something fun, not sure what yet, but thank you for the reminder to reward myself I have a tendancy to forget that.

Darla and Tracy are right...you are doing the right thing. keep doing the self talk and don't keep things in the house that are too much of a temptation. Good luck!! Hugs, connie d

Yup, I learned my lesson on keeping bad food in the house.  I just have to remember to keep driving as I pass the fast food places and grocery stores. 

Just wanted to say.....    Keep up the excellent work girl!

Thanks!  Sometimes I forget to be proud of what I do right.

Have you tried sf popscicles they are more like frozen crystal light in a stick. Oooo now there's an idea. frozen crystal light on a stick. Your doing great by the way hang in there.