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I need to know is it just me or is it others too.  My hubby is getting jealous..... He says That he feels like you guys are my happy family and that my family here is my mad family.  He says I don't spend enough time with him and that we are always on the computer or whatever.  It does seem like we hand the computer over to each other evrynight all night. He thinks I will find someone on here who will give me more support than he does.. I told him he is the one That I want but how do you convince him otherwise.  I told him that I know he is tired of hearing about my weightloss and all of my wow moments and I know that you are all here for me.  The reaction out of him is oh good, thats nice..... and I told him thats how he says it.  Yesterday now with my new look he said I looked great and kept telling me that and how much he loves me...... I love the guy with everything I have I know I don't show it enough sometimes and should really work on that.  Anyways I don't know where and the heck I am going with this but I am done.....Thanks for listening...... Hugs Marsha

Good Monday morning, Marsha~ First off, I LOVE your new picture!  You are melting away! Secondly--you are not the first person who has had to deal with family concerned about this 'family'.  I think it's too bad (said in a nice way) that we have to get support online. I for one am aware that I spend altogether too much time checking this site! (But hey--I have no 'significant other' so this IS my support.)  But it does seem to be addictive...I must practice discipline with computer time in general... Anyway--I hope your hubby learns to appreciate the beautiful NEW you--'cuz you're gonna keep getting better! HOT MAMA!  YEAH! Take care! ((HUG)) **SUE**

Hi Marsha!  Im sorry about your situation.  I am not married so I cannot totally relate but I have recently gone through a simular situation.  My best friend is actly kind of the same way that your husband is.  I have realized that I have to make a special effort to connect with her.  She feels like I am going through this great time in my life and she is being left behind because she cannot relate to it.  I know that she loves me and is happy for me but I just have to go that extra mile to include her in my life.  I am always on here or talking about my new friends and she would feel so left out.  Even though I really havent even met most of you.   Well that was kinda all jumbled up but I think you know what I am getting at.  I think you should just try to do little things that will let him know how much you care for him.  It doesnt have to be grand jestures, just tiny love bites.  But then again, Im not married so maybe I dont know what Im talking about! LOL!  I hope that you and your hubby can find that middle ground!  Im praying for you!

Marsha - my suggestion is that both of you should read the book The Five Love Languages & find out what each of your's is. My DH & I read that book and it forever helped strengthen our marriage.

It's easy to come to the board and we will support you because we all understand, but this doesn't replace the bond you have with your DH and family. If you weren't real outgoing before surgery and you are moreso now, your DH just needs to allow for the adjustment period. You're learning a lot about yourself on this journey. You just have to find your happy medium between the board and family time - and you will. XOXO

Great book!  I think it is very important to know your spouses love language.  It's good to know your own love language too. DH and I took a marriage enrichment class and one evening was dedicated to love languages.  It was extremely helpful to our marriage. 

Just sent ya a PM. 

I just have to say ditto to all the things these three people have said.  My hubby and I have also read the book, The Five Love Languages.  THAT would benefit both of you.  Good luck with this.  One really cool thing is that your husband is able to commuicate this with you.  That is so awesome becasue we all have heard how men have trouble expressing their feelings.  This way he is getting it out before it clogs up other areas in your lives.  Give him a pat on the back from me!   :O)   I am sending a big warm hug to you sweet girl........

I don't have a hubby.....but I just had to respond to tell you that you are looking FABULOUS!!!!!

Some of you might think this is out of line but.....I am an old newbie, but I am thinking increase the sex and he will have his own wow moments. Just a thought.

I find that when my Hubby is home I'm not on the computer. We have our family time. Sometimes I check in but I really try not to in the evenings because I really need my family time or am doing other things that I call my mommy sanity time away from the house aand off the computer.