depressed...and other things...

I am sitting here at my home, working remotely, and feeling so depressed.  As you know - my boyfriend and I broke up a month ago, and tonight I got on the scale and I was up 6 lbs.  6 LBS!!!!!  I can't believe it! 

I just want to cry and need some encouragement tonight.

Sorry to be such a downer, but I really could use something to lift up my spirits.... thanks!

As DH always says when I'm having one of these times...."there there, there there". 6lbs is an opportunity to get back to working the tool - not the end of the line. Right? Look how far you've come Laurie - you look AMAZING!!! And I haven't even seen you at NB coffee lately. I know it can be hard to lose a relationship and move on, but it's only been a month - go easy on yourself. You're a wonderful lady with a fun personality and a heart of gold. Trust me....there is a man out there just dying to meet up with YOU!!!!  Be patient and when you least expect it he'll be knocking on your door. And remember too, it's ok to be a bit down once in a while. The whole wls process is cause enough for a roller coaster ride of emotions. Blend in little of rl challenges and it's a recipe for a few nights of downright no good feelings. Tomorrow is a new day, a new opportunity, and it'll all be ok! Take a good, longand call me if you need to talk (I'll PM you my phone #). Sharon

Ditto !!!  Tomorrow is another day -- and one more day that the pain of a recent break up goes away.  Just like your weight loss, it's not going to go away over night!!  It is going to take time.  Get back to the coffee groups and get some support and get back on track.  You can do this.  Stop beating yourself up and just start using the tool again. XXOO

I'm sorry to hear that you are having struggles right now.  I know your heart is hurting, and you should mourn the relationship.  Don't let this set you back.  You have worked too long and too hard to get where you are with this surgery.  Be sure you get yourself outside, into the sunlight.  It will help you feel a little better, and help you get back on track and get rid of those new pounds.  Reach out for comfort and support.  Things will get better.

Hi Laurie, I'm sending you huge supportive hugs!  I can honestly relate to the hollow hole in the pit of your stomach;  we need to learn and remember that our self-worth is NOT determined nor validated by any man.  Not all of our dreams came true, but let's not be sorry we had them!  I found in therapy with my psychologist, the sadness I'd felt after breaking up with a guy two and a half years ago, was not so much the loss of the relationship, but I was mourning the loss of a dream!  I subsequently just happened upon an amazing friendship even being friends for seven months prior to physical intamacy, although doing it 'right' sure has no guarentees!  We first need to focus on our self-determination and personal growth and to participate in social networking  with other women because it offers the most diverse acknowledgement of our very being.  Hence, our lives are not incomplete without a man--we must hold the responsibility of our own completion, and when the time is right, the completion of that elusive dream will manifest (pun so unintended) through having 'the' man who complements our whole being.  Best of the best to you sweetie;  are you going to the overnighter the end of the month?  Sure hope so, as it was just amazing getting to know you up at Two Harbors a couple weeks ago! (tattoo sistah!)  Be gentle with yourself! Hugs galore, Patti-tat-too!

We all go through times like these..  Big Ole GIRLFRIEND hugs to you!

Laurie...Just remember were all here for you. Your a strong woman just try and keep your chin up!! Big hugs coming your way. Brea

Oh no!  Laurie, I love you!  Why didnt you call me?  I hope that you are not still depressed!  You know I had a feeling to call you last night but I didnt.  I should have looked on here!   Everything will be ok sweety! 

I thought about calling, but then Sharon replied and PM'd me her digits, so I called and talked to her - that helped...she atleast got me to laugh a bit! Thanks - I will call next time....

(((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))  It's just a little stumble and with the breakup of a long term relationship, one that is pretty understandable.     Here's to getting back on track, and having good friends who are here for you no matter what!