Has anyone experienced this

Hello everyone, I don't post very often but I enjoy reading the posts everyday.  It helps me on  my journey.  I had Open RNY last Sept 24th.  I have lost 88 pounds so far and everything is going well.  But I now find myself worrying about losing more weight.  I want to lose 100 pounds total.  And I find myself eating a little more so I won't lose.  I feel like if I lose more then I will have the pressure of keeping it off.  It's very hard to not eat bad things.  But I have done very well so far. I NEVER thought I would say these words to myself.  But I'm trying to be honest.  I'm comfortable at my weight loss right now.  And I just feel stress about losing more because I'll have to work that much hard to keep it off.  Is this stupid or what??  Has anyone else gone through these worries? Thanks for listening Jayne

I can't say that I've found myself there, but I would strongly suggest seeking counseling to try and find out why you are sabotoging your efforts. Good luck dear.

I know how you feel!  My goal was to lose 73 lbs.  I have already lost 50lbs in 3 months.  I like where I am at!  Im not eating more or anything like that but I am super comfortable where I am and I almost feel like I can maintain here so why lose the last 23 lbs just to maybe later mess up and gain it back!  But I know these are just thoughts in my head.  I just have to have confidence in myself and just let go!  So no I dont think your feelings are stupid.  Just hang in there!  You have done such a great job!  Keep it up and I bet once you do get to your goal, you will feel differently!

Hi Jayne, You said you wanted to lose 100 lbs.  Why 100?  Why not 95 or 105?  Are you at a healthy weight losing 88?  If you lost 100 would you be at an unrealistic weight to maintain?  The reasons I ask these questions is because your ultimate goal in this process is being able to MAINTAIN!!!  I'm a 5 year veteran of this WLS world and maintaining is the tricky part.  Are you truly happy with staying at your 88 lb mark?  If so, see how it goes for awhile STAYING there.  Don't start overeating to prevent more weight loss, because that will eventually backfire on you. My advice is to have a reasonable goal.  Your goal now is probably different than when you were younger too.  Depending on how long you were overweight you have heavy bones and muscles and you will weigh more than you look.  My magic number was always 135 - but when I hit 155-160, I was in a size 8 and my diabetes was all but gone and I was at a healthy weight for me at age 42.  I am not going to kill myself to get to 135 just because that was the number for me when I was 18.  Check with your doctor, assess your health, and figure out what will work for you long term.  Bank in some leeway for that goal (5lbs or so), because your weight will fluctuate.  Try not to stress too much - I know that is difficult, because we don't want to be one of "those" statistics of those who have gained it all back.  Check in with your scale weekly or daily - but try not to live by it or measure your self worth by it. Remember you will eat things that are not the best choices at times.  You have to live in this world long term after your "honeymoon" period, you just have to figure out what works for you in order to MAINTAIN.  If the scale starts to creep, you nip it at 5 lbs - not 15 or 30.

We all worry about regain.  Just try to keep things in perspective and step back and truly analyze the numbers.  You just may be at goal now! 

Good Luck!

 

Hi!  Lori J. said it well!  And I agree with Lisa in going to a couselor.  I was already seeing a counselor when this issue came up with me.  To me it was a number issue, a letting my "walls" down issue.  I had a goal of 150, reset it to 140(for my height that is considered overweight yet).  When I flew by those I freaked thinking "I don't wanna be too thin"  "will this stop" and all sorts like that.  Then my surgeon said to me that my body will go wher it is suppose to and my counselor said to relax and jus****ch that I don't get too thin.  Well, for me (5'4") I have come to love being 128!  My weight bounces between 126-132.  It's not stupid!  We all have a comfy level.  Best to you!

Thank you all for your words of wisdom.  And that's what they are is wisdom.  This is truly a great forum for our questions and fears.  I do want to succeed with my weight loss.  And I do  really think 100 pounds is about right for me to lose.  So It's good to hear that other people had these same fears, and you faced them too.  Thanks for answering, it helped me alot. Have a great weekend Jayne

Hey, thanks for the question. It kind of hit the nail on the head for me!!!! I desperately want to lose another 23 to 28 lbs. But have stalled. Don't know which way I will turn at this point. But the girls have great advice (they always do!!!) I to find myself bulking at losing the extra pounds..... Definatley something to look into.