OT - need help with a relationship question...

Thank you everyone.  You all restated what I know is true.   I am going to lay my cards on the table and let the chips fall where they may. I know if he doesn't recipricate (chef rob) I have to break it off, but man I don't want to.  Then in the very next breath I know I also don't want to feel this anymore either. We'll see what happens.  I'm not sure when I'll be seeing him again...his kids are over for an extended weekend due to no school and he's sick....... Thanks again!

Hi Tina~ Just want to say I agree with what everyone else says.  It's a tough decision, and it might be painful, but in your heart you know what's best. Good luck. God bless~ ((HUG)) **SUE**

I do.  I just wi**** would be different.  I like him so much.   No wonder I never dated after high school.  This really is rough.

Well, I dont know all the details, but have you ever gone out with "your friend?"  Maybe he has always had feellings for you but was 2 scared to tell you.......scared of rejection?  I know I missed many other posts on the subject Im sure.  And Rob, perhaps he has also been hurt badly and doesnt want his kids involved if he thinks he will be getting hurt again....Does he have custody?  But talking to him and sharing your feellings may spare an even bigger broken heart if you don't talk to him, the longer you wait the harder it will be perhaps?  And your friend?  Maybe you should try a date or 2 and tell him, that does not mean you want a relationship with him....you are allowed to date, your not in a commited relationship, and take a look at how he makes you feel, if your not used to him on that level, it may surprise you..... Anyway, I hope that helps, but its been along time since I dated, but I know what it's like to get hurt, i always used to attract the wrong men I think.....then when I finally got the right one,,,it was hard not to push him away as I had a wall around my heart...

Hi Tina-I bet this is tough!!  Dating is hard in itself then add a child....ooffta  I know it can be done though as I have friends that have had successful relationships some married some not.   My guess is that you already know what your heart is saying.  Stay tough and be true to yourself.  Our daughter is a new single mom and I watch as she struggles with dating-she gets asked out and sometimes she goes, most times not (I think because she's too tired!!  lol)  I pray for her to just be strong and true to her and the baby. Good luck my friend as I said-dating seems tough but it'll work out!! 

Enjoy life! Date the two of them until you decide you want to settle down to one of them. I would not have him meet your son until you know you are going to be with him and him only, which you sound like you want to have both. one is giving you full attentionand the other is just laying back and not sure what he wants. Do not wait for either of them - have fun and enjoy this is still new and you do not have to meake such final commitments so soon in a relationship. Your son will be more jealous after he meets any man that is dating his Mom, trust me. my son is 34 years old and still has issues on who i date.  Life is full of wonders, enjoy and see what happens and not wonder what will be in the next week or month - tkae it and be wonderful! good luck