1 year this week, and been pretty down.

Hi everyone,

You may have noticed I've been missing the last couple of weeks. I've been pretty down, and hard on myself. My 1 year anniversary for my surgery was Feb. 14th. I have only lost 107 lbs, and not no where near where I had hoped to be. Part of me wonders if I have failed again. Another part of me says hey, take a look at how far you've come. It's a battle. For those of you more then a year out.... can I still hope to lose more? is what I am feeling normal?

Then to top it all off, on valentines when I was already feeling low, my ex-fiance called. Didn't even remember my surgery date from last year. Had to tell me about going to vegas with his new girl friend, whom he was seeing while I was in the hospital last year. It all really hit me with a downer. I did feel good about telling him not to call me again, because all it does is upsets me.

Now that I have wined, where everyone can see...
Can anyone tell me how to get out of this rut!!!!

Thanks

Well Id like to tell you but Im in that rut with you.  IM so  down .. bummed.... no smiles in me. I have to think its the time of year.  Winter doldrums..... 

I can tell you the "LOOK YOU HAVE LOST OVER ONE HUNDRED POUNDS CELEBRATE THAT WOWOWOWO"  And I feel that way... about you, but I also understand the feeling your going through. Ride it out.. this too shall pass " what I keep saying to myself" and keep posting.  I know its hard when your down... I have pulled back too. Hugs

Hun, you are definitely not alone.  I lost 105 lbs...3 yrs out.   I wanted to lose at least another 30 to 50  lbs and it just hasn't happened.   I sometimes get down too but I take time look at where I've come from.  I'm so much healthier than I was.   Sometimes it helps me to get out the pre op pictures to see exactly what I used to look like.   My tool still works...I still keep trying to lose more but I'm thankful at the same time for what I have done.   4 yrs ago I never imagined I would feel this good and have lost 105 lbs.   I have a very hard time sometimes when people tell me I look good....I want to say yeah right...I'm still fat.   But I stop myself and say thank you...I feel very good too.    I get into the bad habit of looking at others who had surgery and are much smaller than myself.   I need to not compare.....they are not me and were not in my shoes.   Everyone is different....everyone starts at a different weight..had different issues..different surgery types etc..    Just keep telling yourself you have done a great job!!!!   You look wonderful and have done a great job 107lbs in a year is fabulous.   Another thing I've noticed is when I feel like that it's when I need to come here more not back away.......that's when I need the support more than ever.   Remember we're here for you and most of us know exactly how you are feeling.   So, to answer your question yes...what you are feeling is very normal.  

I have been going through a downer phase too myself. I wonder if there is something in the water? I have been lurking more than posting (and being VERY selective on replying, as I am just not in the mood to respond). I go this this every so often. For me, I think it has to do with my mentrual cycle. My hormones have just not been in good control since surgery. Be happy with what you have accomplished so far. 107 lbs is nothing to sneeze at. I hope you start to feel better soon.  Hugs, Lori

Thanks, maybe I'm not so abnormal. I am hoping maybe when spring hits and I can get outside and walk more it will bet better.

Guess we arent alone huh???

Yup...me to ...in a rut and very down. I have to make myself do any and everything and have been feeling this way for awhile now.  You have done a great job with your wieght loss...I am proud of you!! You are right about springtime and wanting to do more. I think we all pretty much feel that way right now.  As for the ex....I hope you can get him to move on and leave you alone. It isn't fun to hear about what he is doing with someone else. That is very inconsiderate on his part. Not worth your time. hang in there it will get better. We just have to continue to be here for each other. This is where the love and support is. PM me anytime!! Hugs, connie d

You have lost over 100 and you should be proud of where you have come from....you will continue to lose.  I'm 14 months out and only lost about 90.  Still haven't hit 100 lost.  I have 20 more to lose, and I know I will and you will too....Don't give up!  It will continue as long as you use it right. Keep your chin up!!  You have done awesome.  And I've been down lately too.  My dr had to change my AD.  And I think it may be working...sunny days are coming.

Diane, I am sorry you are having a tough time right now...and you are definitely not alone. I have been super down....dont know if its the cold, the weather, the time of year, the stalled weight loss...heck, it could be all of them! I just want to sleep and eat..yes, I said eat! Please come to coffee Monday night in Chaska and maybe we can brainstorm ways to get us out of the "black hole". Take care, we can beat this!!

Hi Phylis,

Sorry I didn't make it last night. I was down with the flu, and unfortunately I don't have internet at home so couldn't let anyone know. I am going to try to make Eagan this week, and chaska next time. Everyone is so sweet.