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Sandra N.
on 2/5/08 11:17 am - MN

Thank you Lori and so are you creating a wonderful person!!!

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

Lisa B.
on 2/4/08 11:32 pm - Independence, KS

RNY on 10/12/07

Sandie Thank you for posting this. I think it was something all of us needed to hear... my family has accused me of being grumpy a few times lately and I've had such a hard time making them understand that NO I"m not grumpy.... I'm just not allowing myself to be walked on, taken advantage of, or be unappreciated.... it's taking time but they are finally starting to get that mom is taking care of mom too and NOT just them for a change. Thanks again doll Hugs L.

Hugs ~ Lisa
Well behaved women rarely make history!
305/296/147/150 159 pounds down 3 lbs below goal!
Highest weight/day of surgery/current weight/goal weight

Sandra N.
on 2/5/08 11:19 am - MN

RNY on 12/12/06

OH YES!! And as a mother we are too busy taking care of everyone else that we forget to take care of the caregiver!! HUGS! It does get easier!

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

Darla S.
on 2/5/08 12:57 am - Maple Grove, MN

RNY on 04/27/07

You wanna know what I'VE been learning lately? Not so much about me, but about US? We all see our own perceived flaws. We are our own worst critics. I know it's true of myself, Tracy has shared her struggles, and now Sandie, yours. But at the risk of putting my words in other people's mouths, I think that when we come here, when we share ourselves - the good, the bad AND the ugly - that everyone else sees only the GOOD in us! It's truly a place for unconditional love and acceptance, and I'm pretty sure that's why I have become addicted to this place! We all see the good in each other, we all reinforce the good things we see, and we support each other through those thoughts and moments that might not be positive for one reason or another. We've all had enough of people judging us by what they see on a superficial level. It's so warm and wonderful to be accepted for who we REALLY are! This place, the coffee get togethers, all of the friends we've all made here - it's just indescribable. EVERYONE should have a "community" where they can get what we've got.

Imperfect does not = unsuccessful

Sandra N.
on 2/5/08 11:20 am - MN

RNY on 12/12/06

SOOOOO true my dear! THIS place has been such a great "safe" place to come! People here are the best!

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

Marylou P.
on 2/5/08 1:48 am - Rush City, MN

RNY on 08/29/06

Okay, okay! I havent been posting or attending coffees for a long time, but I have been lurking and just had to reply to your post.

OMG! Your words ring true for me and I can relate to everything you have poured out here. I was that same little girl! (are you sure we werent sisters in some other life?)

I have been feeling so defeated by the lack of weight loss for so many months and have been feeling like a total and utter failure! I just need to get over it. I have lost 82 lbs and I should be happy with that! So what if I am a size 14 (not a 8/10 like my goal was), at least I am not a 24/26 and feeling so miserable that I cant walk a block without feeling like I am going to die! I need to love myself in spite of how I was treated in the past and in spite of how others might view me or want to pigeonhole me into a certain title. I know that these feelings are holding me back and making me turn once again to the wonderfully comforting, evil, terrible, disgusting, gross FOOD which seems to be the only static unconditional LOVE that I can find. I just need to get over my past and the lack of love I continue to have for myself.

Sorry if TMI!

THANKS SANDIE!!! YOU ARE SO INSPIRING!!!

Sandra N.
on 2/5/08 1:54 am - MN

RNY on 12/12/06

Oh HON!! WE HAVE MISSED YOU!!! Wrap your arms around yourself and squeeze....there ya just got a hug from me! Yes, we are our worst enemy and critic! You loved yourself enough to have WLS and now is the time to love yourself even more. Think of it this way: If your friend was going thru this what would you tell her? How would you encourage her? Then do the same for yourself!!! YOU ARE WORTH IT!!!

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

beanie78
on 2/5/08 2:56 am - Ogilvie, MN

Sandi~ I liked how you talked about surgery being a starting point. It's funny because when I read this, I know that I haven't reached that level of self love; however, I "feel" that I love myself but with all of the hurt from my child hood, I know that it is buried deep within my soul and when it comes out I hate that hurt! I don't like to feel weak and even though I do know that it's okay to have felt hurt and sadness it's hard for others around me to see me hurting that badly; mostly my husband. So at times it comes out and I see the hurt on his face so I tell him I need a bath or to take a nap...my famous "down time" and then I'm normally okay for a few weeks or months. Anyway, I love that you write beautiful posts like these and remind us all that one day I will get through all of the past hurt and my life and just really enjoy being me! Love you, Selena

Sandra N.
on 2/5/08 11:23 am - MN

RNY on 12/12/06

Oh Sweetie! Thanks! Your journey of learning to love yourself starts tomorrow!!! YAY!!! Best to you and love yourself as much as you would your family!!! CONGRATS SWEETIE!

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

barbk
on 2/5/08 3:01 am - Eagan, MN

RNY on 10/08/07

SOOO true!!! Thanks for sharing -- meant alot to me. XXOO

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