I need support not sure what to do. LONG

Holy buckets, Nicole - you have more than your fair share going on lately, that's for certain... God must know you're one heck of a strong lady!  'cuz I agree with Tracy about God bringing you through it.  Who knows why you're being tested?  Just don't think of it as being "punished".  That's not a healthy mindset, and you need to stay as positive as humanly possible right now. A few thoughts - I know you've just moved into that 12 x 12 hotel room, and another move is probably the LAST thing you want to deal with right now, but you might consider talking with your insurance agent about getting set up in a place with a bit more room, perhaps some better ammenities.  I don't know what types of hotels/etc. you have in a reasonable area out there, but sheesh - ANYONE would go mildly bonkers being stuck to such a small living space!  I would think insurance has to pay for something more reasonable for an extended stay. As for your marital issues, what you're going through right now would strain even the strongest union.  My marriage is far from perfect, I've considered bailing a few times myself.  But it's gotten better.  Not sure what I can attribute that to, but that which doesn't destroy us makes us stronger.   I pray that you & your hubby will strive to communicate your frustrations more constructively throughout all this.  Taking anger and frustration out on each other is the easy way, but not at all helpful.  Try to channel the anger into energy - to find ways to improve what you have to deal with, whether that be new contractors, a new temporary living space, counseling, whatever you can do to make your situation better. As for your boss?  I have no words of wisdom there, except to try to outlast his petty crap.  Do your job to the BEST of your ability, don't give him any ammunition to use against you.  I've had some pretty lousy supervisors in the past, some that nearly made me jump ship.  But guess what?  They're all gone, and I'M STILL HERE!  And I now have a FABULOUS boss, whom I love dearly!  I WON!  I hope you can, too! As for the drinking?  You know where you're at with that.  If you let it take over, it will, and you'll have a whole new set of ugly issues to deal with.   You're in my prayers, girlfriend.  For strength, determination, grace, and some GOOD LUCK couldn't hurt!!! 

Breathe... Breathe... Start with that, Breathe... Take some time for yourself, sit and just breathe.  You have done it since day one and will continue to do it until your last day. Breathe and pay attention to it.  It will tell you how you are feeling, it will tell you how to respond, it will tell you many things.  Pay attention to it. If you only think of the breathing and nothing else, you have a starting point.  This is where you need to begin the process of dealing with you stress and go back there when if becomes overwhelming. It is the one thing that you need to keep doing.  When you stop, you're done. Master that, go back when you need to, begin again.

Hello........................I just saw that you had Dr Drew.  I had the Roux en Y last Wednesday and he is my hero!!  Are you struggling?  I hope not.  this tool is magic.  My daughter had this a year ago July and is down 140 lbs and has kept it off for a number of months. I guess I just want to say hang and if you need help.................ask.  Ask anywhere, the clinic, the board or come to coffee  the 12th at Byerlys in Eagan , in the Caribou Coffee section. I would really like to hear your opinion of Dr Drew.  He's my main man right now!! sj

Nicole- You have so much on your plate right now--good for you for taking the day off!  I hope you know that coming here for support is one of the best things to do!  We are all here for YOU! 

I think the post about breathing is a good one, but if you need a break from the hotel and the chaos, you are ALWAYS welcome to drop into Sauk  Rapids and we can get some coffee.  I'd be happy to make you guys a nice (WLS friendly!) meal that doesn't come from a restaurant or a vending machine! PM if you need anything.....I am here! Hugs, Jeanne

Nicole, I know that this feels situational, but all these things can have very long term affects.  Please don't be offended, but I think couseling right now would be a good idea.  It won't hurt.  A counselor would be a great sounding board, they can help you prioritize your probs so you can see the most important ones (for right now).  It's ok to see a counselor, no stigma attached anymore.  You might even like it.   

(((Nicole))) I don't have the "right words" and I sure wish I did for you! I just want you to know that I'm praying for you. You've surely been given a lot all at once. I am with Christi on this. From my own experience, sometimes sorting it all out and knowing where to start is the hardest part. That's where my therapist comes in. Puts me back on track & keeps me focused. Just a thought. When it all feels like too much and you post here, you know you did the right thing by waving the white flag! Sending you hugs and well wishes and a shoulder via PM if you need! Be well. You matter & you are important to your self, your family, and all of us! ~Amy~

Nicole, My heart goes out to you and hubby, for everything the two of you have gone thru in the last few months.  I am so happy that you feel comfortable enough with us to post such personal stuff. I do want to add my 2 cents on the drinking part.  Everyone is right about putting the bottle down, what you don't need is to start with a new addiction, trust me, i have been thru it with the alcohol and being 8 months sober, i feel i can speak to this issue. Breathe Breathe Breathe and Breathe again!!!!!!! Step back from everything, one day at a time, for now, no major decisions for the 1st year when you have had a major life event .  Yes surgery is a major life event.  The boss thing i can relate to, not a good thing.   Remember this, that you are stronger than you think, and that God will never give you more than you can handle.   Take care, Kimmie D

I am so sorry to hear that things seem to just be snowballing in your life.  I will say a special prayer for you that things in your life will slow down and hopefully go back to some resemblance of normal and that all of the stuff going on will not inhibit weight loss.  I know you are a strong woman and will get through this all.  I do not blame you for taking a day for you I don't think anyone would be able to counsel those in crisis when they are having crisises in their own life.  I pray that you get through this all sooner than later and that you emerge stronger and unscathed.

Sorry to hear about all that you are going through.  Just wanted to let you know that I will be praying that things improve for you and your family.