I need support not sure what to do. LONG

Despite finally feeling better physically emotionally I am a wreck and I am so afraid I am going to end up sick or with an ulcer. My life is literally spinning out of control right now, and each day more things come up making me think that I am being punished. I have a very strong faith, but it is really being tested right now. First the house flooded, then had water in the hotel room. We have been here at the hotel for 2 weeks and not much has been done on the house. LIving here really pushes your limits and tolerance being in a 12X12 room with 3 people. My boss picks one person every year to "target" to either quit or be fired, and woohoo it is me this year. Makes my life miserable 8 hours a day. My husband and I are having many problems and the chance of divorce is extremely high, he packed his things last night, emotional vomiting sucks, all foamy and dry heaves ( sorry TMI). I have been having a drink a night, more on weekends since this all started, and I know this is not a healthy copeing method but i am so overwhelmed. Now today after getting about 2 hours of sleep, I went to take my daughter to the bus stop, and I backed into a car at the hotel. Oh and my brother is getting divorced and they have two babies under 2.5. I realize it could be a lot worse, Carol just lost her sister and here I am whining about my issues, but emotionally I am exhausted. I called in to work today and said I can't come in today. I can't help women in crisis when I am bordering on it myself. I realize counseling may be needed down the road, but right now it is all totally situational and I dont feel that counseling is going to be affective. Help. I know you all will either have words of wisdom or at least offer words of support. I am afraid this is all going to totally stop my weight loss, and I have come too far to screw it up!!!!!

((((NICOLE))))) i SURE WISH i COULD REACH THREW AND GIVE YOU A GREAT BIG HUG!!!! Sounds really tough and please don't think that you are  whining, that is one thing that this board is for for the support and love of others. I am still overwhelmed with the support I have recieved so far.  I wish there was something I could do, I do have large shoulders and I am more than willing to lend them to you!!  I will offer up some prayers that dh will come around. You both have been thru so much and sometimes that is what God does is put challenges infront of us to see how strong we are. You all have dealt with so much this past year and you have worked so hard. I am here for you.... ((((HUGS))))) Carol

Nicole, I am really sorry for what you are going through right now, all I can offer you is an ear and prayers, and pray that you and your husband can work things out. You have so much stress going on right now it probably doesn't help your marriage. I don't know what you think, but I know I ate for a reason and I need to be careful with not blaming my husband for some of it, but I believe our relationship added to it. I don't know if I explained that right, but I'm sure as you lose wt. you are gaining confidence and that is probably hard for your husband to accept. I am sending you a hug, I hope your day gets better.

Nicole...you can count on me for prayers, love, support and HUGE HUGS!!! I am so sorry that your life is so trying right now. There is an awful lot happening at once. Hopefully they will get your home in order soon and that will help a lot. Living in one room would cause anyone stress!! Sorry to hear there are hubby problems to boot. I pray he gets his head on straight and doesn't leave. First sign of problems and they always want to run...leaving you to hold the bag so to speak....nice huh!! Anytime you need me I am only a PM away!! You are awesome sweetie...things will work out...and life will be good again.  and   connie d

Carol, Laura, Connie, thank you so much. It's another Kleenex moment reading your posts of support and caring. I knew I could count on this place for support in a really difficult time. Thank you so much you have no idea how much your posts mean to me! ((HUGS)))

WOW Nicole!  That is definitely a lot to handle right now!  Good for you for taking the day off - you obviously need some time to recoup!  I don't have a lot of advice for you right now - but you did the right thing by staying home today - you can't help others until you help yourself first. Hang in there - you are a VERY strong person and you can get through this!  If God brings you to it - HE will bring you THROUGH it!  Let us know if there is anything you need! HUGS!

WOW!  I can understand!  WLS can be tough on a marriage (just had a horrid week myself there).  Your pain is real.  What would you tell your best friend if she was in your boat?  You have a TON going on!  I would highly recommend a thearpist.  I have found that (in me) there are below surface issues.  YOU NICOLE are a wonderful, beautiful and special lady!  You pm me if ya need (from one friend whose been there to another)!!  Just know that YOU ARE LOVED and are CHERISHED!!!

{{{{{{{{{{{NICOLE}}}}}}}}}}}}} I just want to say that I am here for you too...big hugs and lots of prayers going your way.  One thing that I do want to say, is get some help.  You stated that you may need that down the road, but because it is situational it won't help.  Believe me, from experience, I know - it will help.  They can 't change the situation, but they can help you to deal with the situations better and give you some coping assistance.  Not only that - medication can also help on a temporary basis, if needed.   I worry about your drinking too.  I realize that you are seeing it for what it is - a coping device - but I do worry about it.

Please don't think I am judging you, just worried about you and want to help.  If there is anything that I can do - just let me know! Big hugs to you and prayers for you and your family!

Oh boy Nicole!!!  You are going through SO MUCH right now, how could you NOT be overwhelmed?  Stress is so difficult to deal with on a daily basis, let alone throw crisis after crisis in the mix.  Don't wait for "down the road" to seek supportive counseling services...it's never to early to get started.   I know from experience that therapy works.  I'm glad you took a "mental health day" as we call them at my office...it sounds like you needed it today.  I hope things start looking up soon...hang in there.  Look how far you have come...you are stronger than you realize. Amy 

My dear Nicole, I am so sorry to hear what you are going through.  I live in Hutchinson and if you need anything a shoulder to cry on support anything I am only a hop,skip, and jump away.  Don't be afraid to ask me I am here for you as is everyone else.  We are having a support group meeting sat jan 26th in hutch you are more than welcomed to come and join us it might be good for you.  Anyway if you need anything please let me know... Hugs Marsha