Do you punish yourself???

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on 1/6/08 10:29 am

LOL I beat myself up everyday....too hard on myself, but like Sabrinna said.....would I say those things to my friend....HELL no. And like Megan, I hope to get these darn emotions in check....I think I need to up my AD.....gotta call dr tomorrow. Along with getting those 1 year bloods done.

Sandra N.
on 1/7/08 1:10 am - MN

RNY on 12/12/06

YOU my sweet sweet Friend ARE WAAAAAAYYYYYYY to hard on yourself!! YOU have done great!! Look at where you were a year ago! What would you tell me? Would you be that hard on me? Apply that to yourself because YOU DESERVE IT!!

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
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"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

NicoleLynn
on 1/6/08 11:26 am - Minneapolis, MN

RNY on 12/04/07

Sandie, What a great post! I have struggled with this for a long time and have tried a couple different types of therapy. It has gotten better, but I still struggle with it at times. My big thing now is if I eat more or something I am not suppossed to I work myself out a lot harder. I have also found that I am more critical and punish myself more if I am depressed at all. Luckily the SAD light I got seems to be working so the depression is back in it's cage. I have been wanting to get to a coffee, but things never seem to workout and now the next 3 weekends I am out of town. Hopefully I will be able to get to one sometime.

"When you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you."

Sandra N.
on 1/7/08 1:14 am - MN

RNY on 12/12/06

Nicole!! That is awesome news!!! Sooooo happy the lights are working!! YAY!! One other tip: You loved yourself enough to have the surgery, so why not love yourself enough to not be soooo tough on yourself? Would you treat your friend that way? What ever you would tell your friend apply that to yourself!! Also, the coffee's are sooooo important!! I love my friends there and cherish every get together! If coffee's don't work the support groups are awesome too!HUGS

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

jimmyv
on 1/6/08 10:30 pm - Eagan, MN

RNY on 02/09/04

Sandie I couldn't agree More. Thats why I am doing the 5 day pouch test becasue after 4 yearsIt seems like I was slipping into my old habits and gaining threee pounds over the holidays scared the heck out of me! I love my new life to much to want to go back. Is being hard on yourself a bad thing? I guess I can agree and disagree. It all depends on if you are struggling to maintain or get the last of your weight of to reach your goal. I couldn't agree more with the statement a mostake is only a mistake if you haven't learned from it its so true! I remember how empowered I felt after What I call the honeymoon stage when no mater what you do you don't gain weight. But over time that seems to change for everyone and if you don't follow the rules you will gain weight back. Its a given! Keep up the great job! You are doing amazing Jim

Sandra N.
on 1/7/08 1:16 am - MN

RNY on 12/12/06

Thanks Jim!! And you have done AWESOME!! Keep us posted on your 5 day!! Here's to kicking the holiday weight good bye!!!

HUGS!

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

jimmyv
on 1/7/08 1:46 am - Eagan, MN

RNY on 02/09/04

Thanks Sandi I Never thought I would be happy to just be able to eat soft proteins!! Keep up the great work yourself! Jim

Darla S.
on 1/7/08 2:54 am - Maple Grove, MN

RNY on 04/27/07

Ya know what? I honestly don't think I'm too hard on myself. (It's entirely possible that I SHOULD be harder on myself!) Whenever I eat something I shouldn't, or too much of something, or slip in a snack I really didn't need, I feel a lot more GUILT than I used to. But I'm pretty good at forgiving myself for my human errors, too. When I DO snack, I either make it something protein-based, or I just have a little bit (one palmful vs. a fist full or half a bag of Fritos). If I have something I shouldn't (hubby's birthday cake), I only take a tiny sliver, never wider than my finger. The WORST was Christmas Day at my SIL's house - there was a ginormous counter top full of treats! And I slipped and ate more than I should have allowed myself. But I ALSO recognize the fact that I ate a mere fraction of what I've consumed in the past, so I forgive myself! I'd like to think I'm pretty healthy, mentally speaking. But sometimes I'd like to sit down with a therapist and see if he/she can read something in me that I'm missing? Anyway, GREAT POST, gorgeous! You almost had me Saturday !! I'm thinking maybe 2/2? Coffee in the am, tubing in the evening.... SOUND LIKE A PLAN???!!!

Imperfect does not = unsuccessful

Sandra N.
on 1/7/08 3:18 am - MN

RNY on 12/12/06

You my dear are doing FABULOUS!! As for tubing, it depends on my finances. How much is it? Are our kids able to come? PM me, the scoop! MWUAH!

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

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