Do you punish yourself???

Sandra N.
on 1/5/08 11:43 pm - MN

Like when you mess up and eat something you shouldn't, gain a pound, don't lose what you think you should have, or even in NON weight loss situations? Ya ever wonder why? Do you know why? Does this effect your relationships/jobs? For me, I think sometimes yes, I do! I come down harder on myself for forgetting or relaxing in the rules. I am not positive why but I think my past failure in trying to lose weight and never succeeding has a role. Something I AM going to talk to my therapist about. I remember in the begining of my WLS I know I didn't beleive that it would work on me or that I would gain it back(still a fear of mine). I think it does effect my relationship to a degree and my job for that moment I feel that way. If we talk to ourself that we are a failure and won't succeed then we are setting ourself up to do just that!! THAT is why it is sooooo important to go to groups or coffee's!! WE need the support that says "YES! You can do it!", or "it's ok....just don't do it again, and if you do..how can I help". So, in those moments of weakness PLEASE reach out and get the help instead of sabotaging yourself (either thru a WLS peep or a therapist!!).! YOU ARE LOVED and deserve it! A mistake is only a mistake when you haven't learned form it or grown from it! THANK YOU to all of you who are amazing, beautiful people that help to support and make someone believe in themselves!!!

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
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"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

RachaelN
on 1/6/08 12:35 am - East Bethel, MN

RNY on 03/09/07

Thanks Girl... I know I do sometimes... like I eat something bad and think, I am not gonna eat tomorrow b/c I did that. I know its rediculous but its the old mental games. I really do appreciate the groups too. You forget things and the girls at the group remind you. Like yesterday when I came I was feeling like a failure because I have been eatting pretty crappy lately. But at the group I realized we are all human and we all fall down sometimes and we help eachother get up and brush off. The hormanal thing too was something I forgot about that I was reminded of yesterday. LOL... thats my new excuse for going mental

hahaha. So anyway I just wanna thank you all as well and you Sandy.... you rock gf. Thanks for being so real

Sandra N.
on 1/6/08 1:04 am - MN

RNY on 12/12/06

Hey Girl!! Isn't it amazing when we realize that we are not alone, that others experience the same thing?!?!?! That I believe is the best part of WLS is having peers!! As, far as mental, I have a HUGE list for my excuse book!!!

Love ya Girl!!

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

debim3
on 1/6/08 1:48 am - Roberts, WI

RNY on 11/13/07

Thanks for the post. I do beat myself up all the time over big things and even the littlest things. It's something I'm trying to work on also. I'm looking forward to meeting some of the wls people that have been so encouraging over this board. But I'm a chicken to drive in the snow and the cities, so I'm hoping for one closer to the border (of WI). A dear friend told me about this site months ago and I signed up but didn't start using it until a week or two ago. Boy, am I so thankful that I did!!!! I've been feeling so alone since my wls. But now I know I'm just NORMAL. What a comfort that has been. You guys and gals are the greatest! Debi

HW 265 / SW 226.5 / CW 130.5 / GW 135

PamelaK
on 1/6/08 2:19 am - Osceola, WI

RNY on 06/18/07

Hey Debi! You're welcome to come to the Osceola/River Falls ones, we'll be having one in Osceola next Saturday morning. Also, if you ever want to go to North Branch, you can drive to Osceola and I'll drive from here if you'd like.

Pam

debim3
on 1/6/08 2:33 am - Roberts, WI

RNY on 11/13/07

I would love to go next Sat., but I work 7-3 every other weekend at a PT job. Maybe I can catch the next one? And I'll watch for the North Branch ones. Thanks!

HW 265 / SW 226.5 / CW 130.5 / GW 135

Sandra N.
on 1/6/08 3:54 am - MN

RNY on 12/12/06

This is a great place!! A place where you are safe. A place to go and they understand. A place to make great friends! Also, a place where if you need to pull up your "big girl panties" they will let you know in a kind and loving way~ not a judgemental way! Glad you came aboard and hope to meet you someday! ESPECIALLY when the weather cooperates!HUGS!

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

PamelaK
on 1/6/08 2:17 am - Osceola, WI

RNY on 06/18/07

Yep, I think I do. I always come down harder on myself for EVERYTHING! I'm kind of a perfectionist in things I do and don't accept myself doing anything but the best....well, in my job and hobbies (when I use to have time for them). I see that coming through in my weight loss as well because if someone else slips and eats something that's not in line with what we should, I understand but me....."NO! Shame on me, what in the h*** am I doing, I know better, blah, blah, blah." I love going to the coffee groups, it really does make you feel as normal as you can or that it's okay to be abnormal according to society standards. LOL

Pam

Sandra N.
on 1/6/08 3:57 am - MN

RNY on 12/12/06

And the best part is that we all understand slip ups!! They happen and the people hear still love you for WHO you are and not what you DO! YOU my dear are such a wonderful, beautiful, positive, encouraging, funny lady that I feel so blessed to have gotten to know!! Love ya dear!

~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

beanie78
on 1/6/08 3:00 am - Ogilvie, MN

Sandy~ I know exacting what you're talking about and it's funny that you posted this today. Last night we were watching a movie (after Mathea and I got home from shopping) and I had a bad of popcorn. UGH. It's so normal to have popcorn with a movie that it's hard for me not too have any popcorn. So then I was thinking because I still need to lose five pound before I meet the surgeron on January 14th that I will only eat dinner tonight...I'm making chicken and bro. with alferdo (sp?) sauce...thinking that the lack of carbs will get me back on track. I was also going to exercise today but dh let me sleep in because I've been having a hard time with my Grandma passing away December 20 and normally I deal with that by sleeping..... Anyway, yes, I know what you mean...

Take care, Selena

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