Were your eating/dieting habits like mine?

Most times I start a new way of eating/diet, I tell my self I am committed to following it.  Most days I don't make it through the day.  Usually three days is tops for staying with a healthy eating plan.  I have had success two times in the last 12 years.  I have lost major amounts of weight and then regained it.  So......Will the rny help someone like me who has good intentions and then throws in the towel all two often?  I really need to hear from those of you who had trouble sticking to a diet much of your life.  Thanks for answering me.  I do plan on telling the folks at Methodist about this so they can hook me up with counseling......I'm thinking that's what I need?  What do you think!

I'm thinking you're a wise woman to address things like this now!  Yes, you can hook up with a counselor to help you work through your issues.  But honestly?  I don't know that your situation is terribly unique.  Would I have needed this surgery if I didn't have those same issues?  Probably not.  But I DO think you have to be ready, in your heart, for a lifelong committment to change.  The pouch is only a tool to help enforce your new eating habits, it's not a miracle cure.  It is possible to do the wrong things and end up "failing".  It's not the tool that fails the person, it's the person who fails the tool.  I know a few people who fall into that category - not here, but personally.  So I think it's wise to talk it through, make sure you're mentally and emotionally ready to make this committment. And at the risk of making some eyes roll, I'm going to mention my butterfly again.  I had a small butterfly tattoo'd on my right hand, at the base of my thumb, where I can see it every time my hand goes to put something in my mouth.  It reminds me to do the things I need to do to make sure I honor my tool.  It's not perfect, I'M not perfect, but putting a permanent reminder on my hand was my way of telling myself every day, for the rest of my life, that I made this decision -  and I will live with it and do the things I promised myself I'd do.  I love my butterfly.  I need to put some lotion on it right now.  Like to keep it soft and purdy... Best of luck to you with your journey, Lisa.  Coming here is certainly a good thing!

I really think I'm ready, but how does a person really know?  As soon as the ice cream, cookies or chocolate is in front of me, I jump out of myself and seem to not be able to control the urge.  So...how did you really know? Lisa

Personally, I don't think it was a matter of "knowing" I was ready.  I made a conscious decision TO be ready.  I decided I was determined to FINALLY do it right.  I didn't leave it up to hoping, I don't think anyone should.  You have to make up your mind that this time, you WILL do what's right.  Put a mental Mr. Yuk sticker on all those foods you know you shouldn't indulge in anymore.  A taste or two?  Okay.  A whole pint of Haagen Das?  Definitely Mr. Yuk material. I have tested my tool a number of times.  I only dumped once (and I wasn't even testing it that time!), but the guilt of having eaten things I knew I shouldn't was just that much worse.  Having Dr. Jone re-plumb the organs the good Lord gave me was a HUGE decision!  Doing things that insult this gift leaves me with guilt unlike I've ever felt before.  So it doesn't happen often.   Like I said, I'm not perfect - far from it.  I'm not sure I even believe "perfect" exists.  But having made the decision to have RNY makes it much clearer to me when I'm not respecting it.

Ditto what Darla said and yes, I've been there done that with the diet thoughts and good intentions, too.

Diamond Girl.....what is your name?   :O)

It is fun to see YOUR picture!!!!!  Is your hair newly short?  Are you eating crap still before your surgery, like now?   I still can't stop and I really thought I would now.  :O(  Whhaaaaaa! 

Lisa~  I have to second what Darla and Amy have said. I'd also like to point out that for me I smoked right up till my required 30 day prior to surgery, not that I hadn't TRIED to quit, I just kept started back up again when something stressful would happen, I ate whatever I wanted right up to the day of my LD. I was a little concerned too, but for me something happend to me. The very last day I needed to be smokefree to qualify for surgery I just put them down (after 13 years of being a heavy smoker) and haven't picked them up again... not that I haven't wanted to, I have, BUT I know I won't be able to exercise if I can't breath, and I need to excercise to lose the weight. The same with the food, When I really really want something I'll have a teeny tiny nibble, just enough to taste it but thats all no more. I've discovered an amount of self control I never knew I had. I don't know if this helps or not, and with every aspect of this surgery everyone experiences things differently, just my two cents worth. One thing is for sure though... this is a great place you'[ve come to, you'll get the support and the butt kickings you will need to make it through. Best of luck to you!

This communication is priceless!  I am so thankful I have all of you *****ply to my needed questions.  You help so much!   What you have said is what I was thinking/hoping would happen to me.  It has been the biggest concern for my hubby who has NO wieght issues.  he hears me say one thing in the morning and by the evening I have a bag of kisses with me and I'm saying, "I don't care!"  It's just too hard.  I'm reading a wonderful book that I got at the library.  It's called Is WLS right for me?   In there it takes about morbetily obese people not having the nerves, or something in them, maybe it's the connecters to the brain, to tell us we are full.  I believe that true.  Otherwise if it's not true, it just doesn't make any sense to me.   Does this make sense?
Lisa B.  I was Lisa B. for the first 21 years of my life!   It funny when I see your name.  It's me.  Anyway Lisa B. conrats on the smoking AND eating!   You must feel super!!!!!!!!

Lisa N.

We've all been right where you are, I even started the process 4 years prior to my surgery got halfway through and chickened out!!! It took me 4 years to get back on that horse. I do think the counseling is a fantastic idea, and a good support system is key, I've got an amazing husband and children that root me on at every pound lost, they also hold me accountable and wont' allow me to lie to myself or them for that matter, and my hubs goes to the gym with me everyday, lol even when I dont' feel like going, just says "lis this is our alonetime... get your gym shoes on... we're going!!!" LOL and these ladies and gents here too of course. I'm so happy your hear and sharing your journey with us! Hugs ~ Lisa B.

I dont have a ton of time to respond but wanted to tell you that yes it helps..when your head cant help your pouchy reminds you. Youll be just fine!   And your gorgeous!!

 

Talk soon... the 12th?