Got my Date

I have a surgery date of 1/29 with Dr. Jones at PNC.  The conversation I just had with my mom kind of got me down for a brief moment.  I think she is second guessing my choice for surgery.  Last March when I made this decision she was very supportive and said she'd come stay with me for a couple days after surgery.   Each month as it got closer to finishing my insurance approval she kept saying I hope it won't be until the end of December....then it was I hope it won't be until January.  Last week it was I hope it won't be until end of January.  Now she is a little upset that it was going to offically going to be 1/29 because she now 'has" to use her vacation time from work to stay with me instead of going to New Mexico.  I told her I'd be fine its not like I'd be alone I'd have my husband and my sister. She just basically said how would that look that your own mother didn't come see you for surgery.  I just realize she is probably just scared and this is how she's choosing to deal with her fear so I won't let it ruin my day.

Congrats on your date. I will see Dr. Jones on the 18th.

Good luck to you!

Congrats on the DATE!!!!  That's awesome!  It'll be here before you know it!  Don't be down, she just needs to process it all!  If she was once supportive she will be again!  I too believe that she is afaraid because of all the horror stories you hear.  That's where you can help by educating her on the whole procedure and of all the success you have seen on the boards!!  Hang in there!  It'll all work out for the best!

Congrats on the date, and don't let your Mom drag you down. If she is like most people sometimes they talk out loud and say things without thinking, and she probably didn't mean it that way. Good Luck!

Congrats on getting your date!  It'll be a great way to celebrate 2008! Honestly, my mom and several other family members did exactly the same thing.  They verbalized support, right up until I got my date.  Then they got negative.  It was just fear for the most part.  I figured out that I had to sit and talk a little more with them, because they had questions they weren't asking.  I even gave out some of my books so they could read a bit ( and it seemed too difficult for them to go to the stinking library themselves).  It sucked at first, but they came around, again.  I think they may have also been in denial that it was really going to happen.  I had almost the exact same experience with my Mom and vacation time to use to stay with me.  I'm sure it will all work out fine.  But I truly do understand how crappy it is when it happens.

I agree she probably is worried~what else do mother's do!!  I know that is why I didn't tell mine until anout a week before hand because I didn't want to have to listen to all the reasons SHE thought I shouldn't have it or so on and so forth.  But she is totally supportive now that everything went well and your mom will be too!  Sometimes they just get scared that thing's won't go right or that you won't be the same person~exactly the same fears we have.  But when you know it is for your health and you know that YOU WILL feel better afterwards than what better reason is there.  Good luck this month and a half will fly by and you will be joining us on the loser's bench!!  Good luck again and don't worry about your mom it will be just fine!  Kristi

Congratulations on your date...WOOOHOOOOO!!!! Your mom will come around...she is just scared.

Hugs, connie d

Congrats on the date!! It will be here before you know it!! What a great way  to start out the year!! And don't worry about your Mom, Like the others said, she will come around and is probably just  little scared.

CarolN

Congratulations on your date!  How exciting that you now have a count down to look forward too!  Sorry to hear about your mom's reactions.  Just remember that you didn't make the decision to have this surgery over night and her getting used to it actually happening won't happen over night either.  Most likely she'll come around, and if she doesn't - you have your immediate family and your OH family to rely on! So excited for you!

Congrats on the date!!! It is just around the corner now!  Don't let mom get you down!  She is probably just nervous for you.  Talk to her, she'll come around!