Not for the lighthearted

Hi everyone!  Hope all of you are well. I know it has been FOREVER since I have been on here. I have had some serious life events in the last 6 months! So it has not been that I have left all of my friends on Obesity Help Minnesota but rather that I have been too depressed, traumatized or whatever else you want to call it. It all started when my step son sexually abused my daughter in June. He has been out of the house every since..... That has been stressful enough. But trying to "hold" the remainder of our family together just about put me over the edge! Anyhow my husband and my other step son are in the process of moving out right now (literally). Hopefully, I can start to get into a better place now that I am getting some closure to the situation. It is hard to maintain a "new" lifestyle and manage obesity with all of the stress in my life. In the last month I have not lost any weight.... I am almost 9 months out.  I am down a total of 146 pounds so I am very satisfied with my results thus far. But have fears of gaining weight back like I did historically.  Anyways I hope to start to have time to redevelop relationships on here and I definately want to strt going on some of the social outings....... Tubing for example. Smoochies Perri

Perri: I'm so sorry to hear of all the trauma and stress you and your family have been dealing with this year. It can't be easy! But it will get better I'm sure. If there's anything I can do to help just let me know. I work in Coon Rapids so if you ever want to get together and just let it all out sometime I'd be happy to be a listening ear. Hang in there, don't beat yourself up over the weight - you're doing great and there's always an opportunity to refocus and re-energize your weightloss. You've clearly had some critically important issue to work through at the same time - that's tough for anyone and you've still done a great job! WAY TO GO!!! Sharon

Perri.

First and foremost welcome back!!!  We certainly have missed you.   I am sorry to hear of your situation with your daughter.  As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse I know that what you are doing for her will speak volumes to her later in life.  I commend you for the things you are doing for her and that you are making her safety a priority.  If you ever need an ear or anything let me know. Second of all, you have done absolutely fabulous with the wt loss.  You should not be discouraged by where you are.  You should be proud of the new you and the way you are now handling your new life stresses.  But I too do have fears of gaining back the weight.  That is what we are all here for.  If you start slipping, let us know and we can help you. ((((hugs)))) Paula

Welcome back Perri!!  I am so sorry you and your family had to go through this tragic event. I too was a victim of child sexual abuse by a brother. However I am glad you have come back.

I will keep you all in my prayers.  Hugs, connie d

My dear Perri! So so so sorry for you and your family!!  How hard!  I'm sorry that you had to go thru all this!  AND HOLY cats do you look amazing!!  146!!!  AMAZING!!!!  Ya still got my number?  If not PM me!  Miss ya dear!

Perri,I'm sorry for all the stress you are going through, it must be very hard. But congrats on the wt. loss you have come so far. I too struggle with eating emotionally and am going back to my counselor for this, I will pray for you and your family and that you may find peace.Take care,

I'm so sorry to hear about your trauma.  I wish you all the best.   I went through a trauma myself and it destroyed my family and my state of mind (not sure if I'll qualify for surgury because of it).   No idea if it was his daughter too, by his actions maybe not.  But there's never a good answer or response when it's something like this.  You've done the best you could, and I'm so sorry you're losing your husband over this.   I lost my son, my husband, and my daughter.  I didn't die, I cracked, and well I hope you make it through better than I did.  Get help (medicinal if necessary), sooner better than later.  I waited too long before I accepted the help. 

Hi Perri, I'm so sorry you have to go through all this.  I know you are a strong person but this is still really had.  Glad to see you back on here.  I hope we can try to get together sometime.  You are doing fantastic on your weight loss.  I have only lost 115 lbs.  Your pics are great!  Say Hi to the girls for me and I hope to talk to you soon.

Sorry to hear about your horrible situation.  The good thing is it seems as though your are taking steps forward to make your life better.  Remember stress can be relieved by exercise ( not my favorite, but it helps). Welcome back to the group and I hope to meet you soon. Tammy