Tuesday's Talk

By no means am I giving him excuses, but his poor childhood is part of his life that he don't realize is causing this vicious cycle. Its really too bad...

My husband was absent in his kids lives for about 3 years. Their mom had boyfriends and flings, the kids seen it & thought it was ok.... now the oldest is 19 and likes to date younger girls and goes from girl to girl (learned by the men mom would randomly bring home nightly) and my stepdaughter does not trust ANY men (for fear of them not following through)--not teachers, counselors,... no man... We talked and I explained that part of her lack of trust comes from her father not being there and that they need to resolve it and talk to be able to move on....Well, they did and they are good now and she finally for the first time this year was comfortable enough to go ask one of her male teachers for help after class, she didn't go or stay alone with him but it was the first step. Now, she is MUCH better... But it all stems from the father/daughter bond that gets broken... It hurts to see and the reason he was absent was no fault of his own, his ex told him he would never be allowed contact or to ever see them again, he believed her...Finally a court order was issued... but anyhow... just wanted to give you a background on the "been there" scenerio... 

It will get better but I am hoping that she don't develop trust issues or or anything... he will regret his behavior one day, though it may seem to late for you, he will punish himself with guilt...And he will deserve it...

Hope your day is a good one :)
Christina

Hello Ladies and Gents...I hope you don't mind if I join in.  I live in Berrien Springs, MI (SW corner of the state).  I will be having surgery on Monday!!!

I started the day with my preop shake and am thinking about having a sf jello for  a snack.

NAN--I could have sworn you married my dad.  In my 35 years he has never called or sent a card.  I feel sorry for your children because it never gets easier with age and it can create many negative emotions. 

QOTD--Just because I know the pain I would probably text the inconsiderate ex to remind him to acknowledge the existence of his children.  (man that statement sounds bitter--sorry)  I would not tell my kids I did but I would say that he still loved you whether he called or not.

Enjoy the day!

Welcome,

Good luck with your surgery next week.  

Let us know how your doing.

Edie

Welcome! And good luck with your surgery on Monday!!

You know, you hit the nail on the head, it has and will create many negative emotions.  I llook at it as it is HIS loss, but I can't help but see the hurt and pain in her heart.  I am so lucky to be getting married to a wonderful man in August whom my kids have really bonded well with.  and even though he can never take the place of their dad, he sure is a good role model for them!

Let us know how your surgery goes!