Wednesday's Wamblings

You guys are right....especially when Jan said "who are we to judge".
Our whole family has addiction issues.  I just got lucky that my food addiction only impacts me.  I suppose he has the same struggles with alcohol that I have with brownies....ugh!

And Nan......oy vay.....don't get me started on exes!!!  I have to go to court on Friday with mine over child support.  It sounds like my kids have the same kind of dad yours do.  Fortunately, you found Steve and I found Dave, so it's like we got a do-over!  Nothing can replace a "real" dad, but its nice to have men in our lives that will step up.

So much for not crying at work.  You guys are making me tear up!!

Brenda
He is the one that put the drink to his lips and the car keys in the vehicle. Not You!

Booze and Brownies have nothing in common, unless you would put them before your family,(children) and life.

You may have a food addiction, but you are doing something about it. And I am sure that you would not let your children starve while you stuffed a brownie in your mouth. He has let his problem go to the point that the law has to take control and put him in a stuation where he can not put himself or anyone else in danger. Eating a brownie never had the ramifications of a Drunk Driver making a weapon out of a vehicle.

Sounds like you are trying to make sense of his actions. You can't. Only he has the answers and the ability to change his life.

Love him, let him know you love him, but don't try to fix him, he is the only one who can.

Good morning all:

Just checking in to say HI.  I had my pre-op registration, etc, today.  Surgery scheduled for 5/4.  I started my 2 wk liquid diet yesterday.  Boy I felt like I was going to float away.  I got in all the protein and water, but I had to use some protein "unjury" samples to supplement, as I just couldn't drink one more of those protein shakes!  I did use the sample of the Unjury Chicken soup and it was very good, a lot better than I expected.  Off to the surgeon for the pre-op consult this afternoon.  And Upper GI on Friday.

And away we go!!

QOTD:  My immediate family and I aren't really that close, I have a brother and sister that have spent time in jail for various things, mostly drinking and drugs.  I love them, but I just can't keep giving money and time for them when they aren't really going to accept responsibility for their actions.  They are plenty old enough (45 & 47) to know what is right and what is wrong.

Sorry to hear about your Brother Brenda, I hope he gets the help he needs.

Good day to all

Marcia 

I don't want this to sound high and mighty, but I just wanted to say that my family and I (2 sisters and one brother and my mom) are very close.  While I worry about my nephews I know ultimately they are OK and my brother and sis in law provide for them all that is necessary and love them unconditionally.  Yes, they frustrate me from time to time, but I love them dearly and would do just about anything for them! 

I also am so happy that my wonderful friend Brenda has such a great MAN to step up!  (And you too, Nan!) 

I have been very blessed in my life and am reminded of that each and every day!  

Brenda, 

I'm so sorry your going through this.  Your brother must have been very embarrassed to have lied to you like that.  I know my heart would break for one of my sib's if something like that happened to them.  Personally, I would do anything they needed from me, I'd be right there for them.

Q:  I'm lucky, no one in my family has let me down.  Now in-laws are a different thing ....I've written off my bro's ex (who is still in their life way to much) and my hubby's sister.  They both have been given plenty of opportunities and helping hands  by me and the rest of the family and they don't want to take any responsibility for themselves....sorry I'm not your keeper!

Nan and Brenda I'm glad you've both got great guys that your kids can look up to and lean on.

Have a great day all,

Edie

Hello everyone !

Wow what a string we have going here!

QOTD: Your brother being in jail, bad, letting you down, in my opinion, no, he let himself down, and probably hurt your feelings for not letting you know.  Remember, this is just my opinion.  The regrets will be his someday.  When someone lets me down it is when they make a promise and don't carry through on it.  As many parents do to their children *sigh* (thinking of my Grandboys and their dad). 

Now for homeschooling.  I know of a couple families that have done it.  One had 9 kids and did a wonderful job, the children are great.  The parents also taught them many instruments, the parents are very successful people and they showed that through the homeschooling as well.  So it will always depend on the parents, we as parents don't always make the right decisions and our children as well as the parents suffer for it later.  If we only could see into the future !

Sorry for your distress over your brother.

So, put a happy smile on and enjoy the sun today. 

Brenda how weird of you to post this today. . I am struggling with so much right now with my son . . he went to war for this country, his wife left him while he was in Iraq, he has full custody of my 5 years old grand-daughter . . he went to electric lineman school hoping to come home and get hired by Consumers and repeatedly gets rejected for jobs because they say there are no apprentice programs right now . . of course he feels like he is the only one in the country who is going through this . . you can't tell him he isn't and in the last week is threatening suicide . . I have been beside myself.  There is no talking to him . .  he got a chance to test with TVA down in Alabama for an apprenticeship program and says "why go they won't hire me anyway so what the since in going"  . . . The VA won't make a home visit to my house to see him and he won't go see them . .  actually I think them coming to my house would only make it worse  . . .I am living in constant fear that today will be the day he will end his life . . so he got a call from Consumers this morning . . and they told him because he didn't go to college in Michigan for his certificates they will not hire him even though they are hiring 100 apprentices . . . in Michigan you don't get a CDL or Climbing Certificates which he already has .  .I am just sick that he is thinking this selfishly. 

Thanks for letting me vent also . . . today life is a real struggle for me!

Kristy

Kristy,
I'm so sorry you are going through this.  My brother is in the same mindframe as your son.  I am so worried he's going to get discouraged and not see the point of going on.

Ok, so I'll add you guys to my prayer list.  I can feel God looking down on me now asking me to organize because I am adding so many to the list.

I hope things work out for him, you, and your granddaughter.  All we can do is what we can do, right?

Kristy,

I am so sorry you are going through this with your son!  I wish there was something I could say but all's I can do is pray that something turns around for him so he can feel his life is worth living.  It must be so hard on you.

Brenda - I'm glad you started this thread today, it goes to show we all have things we struggle with every day that we could use each other's support on, that is totally not WLS related.  And I agree with your other comment, yes, we are lucky to have had a 'do over' :-)

kristy and brenda
I am adding you both to my prayers.

I hope everything works out for the best for you and your families.