I might have a stalker...

A fix -it guy from the power company .... he was here for maybe 20 minutes one day last week.  He's been calling me a lot ever since. He was really good looking and it was good for my self esteem but wow after today's call...even after telling him to not call again yesterday...  wow...I thought only men online were all creepy like that!!!!   He was like "I drove by your house..."   and that was only one fo the PG rated thigns he said  ddaaaammn.... time to avoid the phone and not answer the door in teh day time huh??

Am I really all that? LOL   I've never had anyone sit and describe everything they felt was wonderful about me like this before.... part of it felt great but there comes a time when it crosses a line and seems a lot less awesome I must say.

Not to sound mean or anything but that sounds like something you might have to think about reporting to his employer if his job is where he got your number from.  And please be careful!

It is nice to be flattered. But creepy is creepy.

You should report him to his employer and the police too.
You don't have to press charges right now but make it a matter of record.

Any man who would want a respectable relationship with any women, would not do creepy things like driving past your house and calling you when you told him don't .

NO means NO even if it is a phone call.

You never now what you say do or think or how another person will react!

Be careful and watch out for your family members too.

Creeps are just that Creeps.

Jess,

This is why I told you to be careful out there.. too many creeps like this one.. yes it is flattering on one hand to be hit on .. but could be dangerous too.. these creeps play on your low self esteme and learn how to make women feel good and such.. It is like a game to them..

If he calls again tell him that if he doesn't leave you alone you are going to have to report it to his employer.. that may scare him off.. but it just might tick him off too.. So if I were you I would make a police report now.... that way the police know what is going on.. they might patrol a little exta past your house.. Also then if you have to call them they will know the situation l already..

I hope you did not give this guy your phone number.. or encourage him in any way.. If guys like this get led on in any way then they expect to get results.. PLEASE be careful and don't let compliments from guys get in the way of your better judgement.. You never lead a guy on and then say no.. it causes all kinds of problems.. by leading a guy on I do not mean you do anything wrong. but  just smiling and laughing at his comments and making him think he is so nice and making you feel good is just the ticket for a creep like this to think he has you in his pocket..

You are going to have to learn how to deal with guys and the comments and looks and such that you will be getting.. this will not be the first creep and will not probably be the last..

Keep your doors locked and let a neighbor or close friend know what is happening.. that way they can watch out for this guy too.. I am really scared for you.. especially if he is driving by and calling after you asked him not too.. Do not hesitate to report this to his employer if he continues.. He does not need to be in that kind of job if he is going to use phone numbers for his private use and expect the customers to fall for him in 20 minutes..  

Please please make that police report right away.. better safe then sorry.. a stalker is one thing but this guy mght be a maniac that could try to harm you..

I agree with the others.  If he calls you again you need to tell him you will report him to his work and he will most assuredly lose his job.  Guys like this start out as flattering and end up as controlling and manipulative.  Stop it now.

Hey has that guy called or bothered you anymore.?? did you make a police report..??
I have been thinking about you and I ahve been worried.. ?  I guess my motherly instincts are kicking in.. My daughters name is Jessica too.. She turned 30 in October, but she is still my baby..

Let me know how things go.. So I don't worry so much.. I have you in my prayers..

well... yea  he called the house phone 3 times yesterday but I didnt answer.

I realllly hope he will just go away.  I do no**** to get him fired or in trouble but I definately will
come to you guys for help (the people who offered)  if he doesnt go away very soon on is own.

I am so thankful  never gave him my phone number. It is easy to ignore the house phone.

We can't do much for to help you through a computer terminal. I urge you to please at least make a report to his work. Or have it documented at the local police department.

If you didn't offer your phone number to him, he is a creep.

It will be to late for us to help you if you are attacked or worse by him. There is not much we can do once the damage is done.

If you go to the police they can at least check him out to see if he has a record or anything. And if he don't they will talk to him and at least make it known, that you don't want him bothering you.  And tell him to keep away from you and your home.

Unless, you like the attention and think it is fun, do something about it. Don't put yourself in jeopardy

 

I would notify his employer and the police he sounds crazy to me and either that or just tell him I am sorry if you got the wrong message but I have someone in my life but definitely notify his employer because that to me is against protacol I can't imagine any employer approving that kind of behavior if he got your phone # thru them.  However if you gave it to him that might be touchy I would notify the police.  Chances are the police will notify the employer also.

no I never gave him my phone number but I think he got the message. hasnt called in days now thanks goodness.   I really didnt think it was worthy of getting him fired YET I mean yea... but if he calls or comes over again it might get to that point.  thanks everyone...I think its ok.