On and Off Topic

Let's start with the On Topic.  I have been doing poorly at taking my suppliments and protein, walking, etc.  But in the last couple of weeks I been getting 1/2 of the stuff in I need to.  I came up with a schedule/list/plan last night and need to start getting back on track.  My hair loss is great.  My family has noticed bald/thinning spots and of course lots of hair in their dinner lol.  I am trying but I need to do better.  In August I lost 2 # (which I haven't bothered to update the ticker for)!!!  So I am at a major stall.

The off topic stuff is that since 2001 I have been trying online dating and have never been on a date.  I sometimes get talking with someone but it doesn't led to anything.  I figured now that I was thinner that would help but it hasn't.  I am starting to feel down.  It seems no man wants to be with me and I have very few friends to hang out with.  I am starting to isolate from everyone because the people I do have as friends (a total of 4! 3 are family) all use me in one way or another.  I am starting to think that I am better off alone, just me and my 3 kids.  I am getting so angry lately.  I do have a therapist by the way, and I talk to her too about this.

Jimi

I have been in the same boat you are in now, and the only thing that helped was for me to change my approach.  I learned to lighten up and smile more, and I met the greatest guy just recently on Plentyoffish.com

Keep seeing your therapist and focus on making yourself a great friend and companion.  You can't control what others think or do, but you can recognize that you are a great person who deserves love in all of its forms, and when that happens you will find it.

I'd like to recommend a book for you to read.  It's called 'God on a Harley'.  I just read it and loved it.  It's a real small book and can be read in a day.  I got it on Amazon for a total of $4.00 including shipping and sent it to my neice in TN.  It helps to get you thinking, about how you have to love yourself first, before you can expect someone else to love you.  A real good read.  I hope you'll get it and read it.
A friend had given it to me to read. (and not just because I'm a harley momma!)
Good luck.
Jan

First You need to concentrate on taking care of yourself first. If you cant take care of you then you cant take care of anyone else . Or will not do a good job at it and any relationship will suffer. Including the one with your 3 lovely children.

Start taking those vitamins. and Plan at least 30 minutes of Me time(YOU time) maybe while exercising it helps you focus and get your head together. Get in your 80 to 100 grams of protein it will help stop the hair loss.

Then Take care of the kids needs. The only things you as a parent are required to do is Feed, House, Cloth and love them. Any thing extra you do for them is gravy. sounds cruel but you need to get back to basics and the rest will come.

As far as looking for a relationship. stop looking so hard. Got to church, volunteer for a Kids school project. have lunch at a place that popular business people frequent, and dress the part.
find a hobby you want to learn and take a class. Go to a sports game even if you do not understand the game. jus****ch and smile a lot. You will catch on. Devise a list of what the ideal mate will be like , working values attitude etc... frequent the types of places that the person on your list would frequent. Read a book in the park. Parents With out partners. Don't look just do the activities with your kids that they have. Take a night class at the local college or computer store. Always smile and be friendly you never know who you may meet. Forget about finding someone they will find you. Remember you are the prize. they are the winners.