Reality Check
Brenda - I have to agree with what everyone said on this thread. I so look forward to reading your replys and posts everyday because you are so positive and encouraging. Truly a beautiful person.....
I'm sorry you struggle with your weight loss but you have to know, you truly are an inspiration to others!!!!
Nan
Nan
HW 300 / SW 280 / CW 138 / GW 140
Hit Goal 4/2/2010
Brenda I've gotta agree with everyone else. Your a wonderful, helpful and funny person that I look forward to hearing from every day.
I've never achieved my goal or my surgeons, and personally I'm ok with that...I know I'm allot "newer" out than you, and my hurdles will become more difficult down the road, but I hope I can keep plugging along.
Anyways, I know exactly what you are saying about seeing those girls and being mortified that I was the same size as them, but like your hubby, my hubby said I looked allot better than them. People are usually surprised to hear how much I weigh, I carry my weight well and I dress appropriately. I also believe they shoved those poor girls into those dresses to make them look fatter. I was totally appalled that they showed their height and weight...it just goes to show that they wanted to "show off" the fat people for display, because they've never posted height and weight of girls on the "regular" dating shows! Very sad.
Edie
I've never achieved my goal or my surgeons, and personally I'm ok with that...I know I'm allot "newer" out than you, and my hurdles will become more difficult down the road, but I hope I can keep plugging along.
Anyways, I know exactly what you are saying about seeing those girls and being mortified that I was the same size as them, but like your hubby, my hubby said I looked allot better than them. People are usually surprised to hear how much I weigh, I carry my weight well and I dress appropriately. I also believe they shoved those poor girls into those dresses to make them look fatter. I was totally appalled that they showed their height and weight...it just goes to show that they wanted to "show off" the fat people for display, because they've never posted height and weight of girls on the "regular" dating shows! Very sad.
Edie
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I'm right there with ya, Bren! I sometimes think the same thing....I had surgery but am still fat. But it's a fleeting moment....LOL! I see people on here that have starting weights not too much HIGHER than where I am right now (although, breastfeeding has been a MAJOR help in me losing 25 pounds in the past 8 weeks...and eating like a pig....LOL).
When I was overweight (wait a minute, I still am overweight so let's rephrase that)....When I was MORBIDLY OBESE, I never really saw it. Let me explain....I was very aware that I was obese, physically, but in my head, I was not. I did the same things I always did and never really let it get in my way. With that being said, NO ONE in my family ever sat me down and said, "Hey, you are REALLY FAT and we're worried about your health!" I don't know if they just were avoiding the issue or just never really gave it a thought. Anyway, I do know that after surgery and the weight loss I've attained (which is nowhere near "goal" or "ideal weight"), my hubby and even my friends, have looked at my BEFORE pictures and made the comment, "Wow. I can't believe that was you. I never saw you like that." And my favorite from hubby, "I don't ever remember you being that big!"
Today, I know I'm still overweight and all, but it just doesn't bother me! Go figure. That's not to say I don't wish that I was a size 10, but if I never get to that size, I AM OK WITH THAT! I am healthy and that's what's important to me. I could be MORE healthy and will always try to work on that, but size just doesn't matter! LOL!
I have SO much in my life and am so much more than a size or a weight on a scale.
That's my story and I'm sticking to it!
When I was overweight (wait a minute, I still am overweight so let's rephrase that)....When I was MORBIDLY OBESE, I never really saw it. Let me explain....I was very aware that I was obese, physically, but in my head, I was not. I did the same things I always did and never really let it get in my way. With that being said, NO ONE in my family ever sat me down and said, "Hey, you are REALLY FAT and we're worried about your health!" I don't know if they just were avoiding the issue or just never really gave it a thought. Anyway, I do know that after surgery and the weight loss I've attained (which is nowhere near "goal" or "ideal weight"), my hubby and even my friends, have looked at my BEFORE pictures and made the comment, "Wow. I can't believe that was you. I never saw you like that." And my favorite from hubby, "I don't ever remember you being that big!"
Today, I know I'm still overweight and all, but it just doesn't bother me! Go figure. That's not to say I don't wish that I was a size 10, but if I never get to that size, I AM OK WITH THAT! I am healthy and that's what's important to me. I could be MORE healthy and will always try to work on that, but size just doesn't matter! LOL!
I have SO much in my life and am so much more than a size or a weight on a scale.
That's my story and I'm sticking to it!
It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are. ~e.e. cummings |
I saw the previews for that show and decided I would NO****ch it because it's just exploiting "us" (I'll always be a fat girl in my head) and it's just sensationalism at the expense of poor girls who have been shunned by society just like we were (or are). But I'm glad to read this whole string of messages because it reminds me why I love this website. I am definitely a member of this club - - I never reached my/my doctor's goal but I'm happy where I am; and even though in my head I still think I'm the fattest girl in the room, my friends all tell me that they don't even remember me "before". They are shocked when they see "before" pictures and some have even said they don't believe its me they are seeing the picture. They KNEW me then!!
Although I didn't see the program I bet those girls were dressed to look fatter, or at least to look worse than normal in ill-fitting clothes. That's just sad. I hope at least they got a decent amount of money for doing it.
Although I didn't see the program I bet those girls were dressed to look fatter, or at least to look worse than normal in ill-fitting clothes. That's just sad. I hope at least they got a decent amount of money for doing it.
Brenda,
I have not been on this board for over a year. But I remember you before my surgery 10/1/07 and how encouraging you were to me! I thought you were amazing and still do from what I am reading. Any of those programs including bachelor and bachelorette are pathetic. I would be soooooooo dissappointed if any of my children ever chose to be on them.
I am 18 months out on my surgery and originally lost about 80 in the first 9 months and this year I have also put on 12 pounds!!! It is so very hard. I too, joined a gym two weeks ago. It is hard and everyday is hard but we just have to do the best we can. At least if we are trying it is better then those that don't even care or try.
I got a life back at least I can go to a gym. Before my surgery I would have found it difficult to walk from my car to the building! So keep trying and think of everything you have been able to do that you couldn't do before. And most of all don't beat yourself up!
Wendy in Redford
I have not been on this board for over a year. But I remember you before my surgery 10/1/07 and how encouraging you were to me! I thought you were amazing and still do from what I am reading. Any of those programs including bachelor and bachelorette are pathetic. I would be soooooooo dissappointed if any of my children ever chose to be on them.
I am 18 months out on my surgery and originally lost about 80 in the first 9 months and this year I have also put on 12 pounds!!! It is so very hard. I too, joined a gym two weeks ago. It is hard and everyday is hard but we just have to do the best we can. At least if we are trying it is better then those that don't even care or try.
I got a life back at least I can go to a gym. Before my surgery I would have found it difficult to walk from my car to the building! So keep trying and think of everything you have been able to do that you couldn't do before. And most of all don't beat yourself up!
Wendy in Redford
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