Wednesday cawfee tawk

Morning! I am so lazy today.....but since no one else posted I figured I would do it. 

I'm at work getting ready for a meeting.  I'm eating some soy nuts so my stomach won't growl while I'm in there.

So, my youngest son got a ticket for skateboarding last night.  Now we have to go to court downtown.  This will inspire my QOTD:

What has been a big disappointment in your life, and how have you overcome it?  I was disappointed with myself for getting married too young and letting myself go.  I'm fixing all of that now, so hopefully the next part of my life will be awesome.

Have a good day!!

I know what you mean Brenda.  I am dragging today too, for no good reason.  Still struggling with reflux at night which wakes me up multiple times.  I am drinking my Meijer gas station coffee this morning.  I can't believe the price of gas-$249 a gallon for regular.  You can tell we are headed into a holiday weekend.

My biggest disappointment-the failure of my marriage.  I loved being married and my husband wasn't a bad guy, just not as motivated or responsible as I am, which made for a power imbalance. I hope to fix that someday in a new, more equal relationship.

 

Wow Judy- are you sure you’re not married to my husband? lol

Seriously, my marriage is probably my biggest disappointment. Some days I’m convinced I need to throw in the towel and other days I just keep hoping it’ll get better, but it’s gone downhill in the last 2 years and I think I shouldn’t have married him. I got pressured into it- during the wedding planning I got so wrapped up in the party and didn’t pay attention to any of the “red flags" that were bothering me. 2 years later and they bother me WORSE. If we have $10, he’ll spend $12. I keep everything together because I’m a wiz at budgeting, but I haven’t even bought a single thing for myself in a year because of his spending. I make 2/3 of the income and get $0 for “fun money". I’ve tried begging, crying, pleading, b*tching, being nice about it- nothing works.

He’s not a bad guy at all- he doesn’t have a mean bone in his body and I KNOW he loves me. I have a hard time with the lack of money, responsibility, and just the general sense he has that life is one big party.

If we had just stayed together and not married, we’d be broken up by now and I could have moved on. Instead, I foresee a divorce in my future, full of crap from my family and friends, and a whole bunch of emotional pain. Shoulda listened to my gut instinct.

 

Sorry to unload but that felt good! lol

Yep. we were married to the same guy.  Mine loved nice things-cars, stereos, clothing. And he didn't mind if I worked hard to get those for him, while he was always underemployed.  It was fine when it was just him and me, but when we had  a child it was just too much-me taking my daughter to day care on the way to work so he could stay home "just in case" he got work.  He still tells people I am money hungry, but when we were married he spent far more than I did, and I have been Miss Responsible ever since, so no frills, no vacations etc. 

WOW!  Where we all married to the same guy?  I was with mine 21 years when he did me a favor (didn't see it that way at the time).  Only mine played mine games to keep me in line doing with out while he didn't.

I now am marrid to a guy that would give me anything.  I have to be careful what I say so he doesn't.

Good morning!

I took the day off - I was bored to tears at work yesterday and since its going to be 80 today, decided I would enjoy the weather and work outside at home today. 

I haven't had my coffee yet - just got off the elliptical, then I'm heading to the gas station to get mulch and finish up the front yard.

QOTD - I'm going to have to agree with you guys, my failed marriage, and yes, I'm working on that too now.  My divorce will be final June 8th.  The next part of our lifes will be AWESOME since we are taking control of them now. 

ps - Brenda, I had an email saying you asked about Flint style dogs yesterday, but when I logged in I couldn't find the post- that was weird.  There are Flint style coneys and Detroit style.  The Flint style has a thicker hamburg/sauce.  The Detroit style is more like chili. 

Hello all -

I'm drinking my fake latte as usual this morning.  I've got a bunch of reading to do for class tonight and I've got my chapter photocopied.... so when I read at work it'll just look like I'm reviewing a report or something. 

Things are pretty subdued here at the office.  One of the directors died of a heart attack last night -- he was a jovial man who always had a joke and a smile or a compliment for you when you passed in the hall.  He was one of my favorite people here in our department. He'll be greatly missed.

QOTD -- I really can't think of anything off the top of my head.  Sure there are some things I'd do differently, but I made a vow a long time ago that I would not allow myself to feel regret for any decision I made or path I traveled.  I like where my life is right now and if I'd changed anything along the way I'm not sure I'd be in this exact place.  Every step I've taken as brought me to this moment in my life. 

GO WINGS !!  GO TIGERS !!

Well, today is errands and shopping, and I hate shopping.  I've made a list, so I'll go in, get what I need, and get out.  I'm going to Costco so I think I'll pick up a roasted chicken for dinner tonight.  They're sooooo good.  I'm not fond of hot weather, so today will be a challenge, going into the 80's and all.  I had to laugh, Brenda about the skateboarding ticket.  My brother once got a ticket for J-walking in Detroit.  Who'da thought?

I haven't had a major disappointment in my life to date.  Some bumps in the road, but nothing major.  I guess I'm pretty lucky all in all.

Sunshine to everyone!
Jan 

Morning Everyone!

I am off today and DH and I are heading out for a date day before the big call for kids... We are heading out to the Henry Ford Estate... We got the free passes through the library and then we will have lunch out there and tour the gardens... I am looking forward to it.. We have been wanting to go there since before we were married. (we got married at Martha Mary Chapel at Greenfield Village).

Yesterday I worked so hard in the yard... so I am kind of sore today but it is okay. I jsut remember that I could not have done that much when I was heavy.

QOTD: I used to be disappointed that I could not have kids and now realized what my calling was... But other than that I think the only disappointment I have is the fact that I lost my Dad 6 years ago. I wish he could be here to see what I have become and share in the joy of the girls that are going to be coming into our home.. Plus I would love to see what he thinks of this weight loss since he used to feed me so much! I swear he cooked for an army!

Brenda: I hope that everything works out okay with the ticket!

Good Morning!  I am drinking an orange protein drink, Its actually pretty good.  I am a happy girl today, I had my soft foods class yesterday so after 5 looooooonnnngggg weeks of liquids I can eat food that requires chewing. lol 

QOTD~ I have a few big disappointments in my life.  One being I feel I wasted most of my college education, I wasn't focused on the right things and I missed out on alot.  I try to study things and read  up now, but..... Just not the same thing.  My other disapointment is in my self with self control, whether its food, money or my opinion,  I cant seem to show self control.  I took charge of the food this year and I have been working on the money and my opinion, I guess being aware there is a problem is half the battle, I have been trying to work on these things too and regain self control in all areas of my life. :)