Thursday Morning Toast!

Morning,

Very tired this morning, actually having a second cup of coffee.   Once I finish that it is my carbmaster yogart/fiber one combination.   I have also added 4oz of apple juice watered down 2 times a day to help things keep moving, sorry if it is TMI.

QOTD - that is a sticky subject in my house.  My surgery has affected our relationship.   Honestly, out of my clothes, I do not feel attractive.  I can hide and tuck things in clothes and look appropriate, but out of them, I am very self concious.  My hubby said he doesn't see me that way, but it is hard for me to deal with.  I have 50 pounds before they will do any lifts or any other plastics.   I also have a fear of getting pregnant,  and we have yet to find a birth control that works for me, and my hubby refuses to have anything done.  

Today is my Friday.  I took tomorrow off to spend with my son.  We were going to do something special, I was hoping it would be nice and we could do lunch at a park and play for a couple of hours, but I heard 100% chance of rain tomorrow, heavy rain at that, so I am not sure what we are doing.    Thought about doing the waterpark at Zenders in Frankenmuth, but my DH vetoed that because he doesn't like water.   

OK enough rambling, got lots of reports and filing to finish today.

Have a great one

Pam

 

Hey Pam,
Get yourself a lace nightie with long sleeves.  I have one that is lace up top with long sleeves and it hides everything!  You can strut around the house in it after DS goes to bed!  Bow chicka wow wow!  Trust me, DH won't be thinking about anything but how hot you are!

Good Morning,
I've had my breakfast and am moving on to my water. 
Working afternoons this week so getting ready to head out for a nice walk . . well chilly walk.

QOTD:  It's just me for now.  I will tell my future someone that I had surgery, this journey has become such a part of who I am I will have to share it   And when and if I do meet someone - the pictures of me in the past with my children will tell the story. 

Have a good day!

Another typical morning here too.  Protein chai tea and coffee are done.  About to have some yogurt and fiber twigs for breakfast.

QOTD 

I'm single.  My husband died at birth.  :-)

When I had surgery I actually made the commitment to myself to NOT date for a full year post-op.  I wanted to take that time to focus on myself and my own health and life changes.  It was a time I gave to myself to be completely and totally selfish without the guilt of being obligated to worry about anyone else.  It's the best thing I did for myself in this whole process.  So when I hit the one-year mark and I was allowed to date again, I realized it wasn't really a priority for me anymore.  If Mr. Right comes along, great and I'm sure he'll arrive some day ..... but I'm not going to go out searching for him right now. I'm happy with myself and I enjoy my own company.   Some days are lonely and I wish I had a companion ... but overall, I'm happy right now. 

I had my decaf and vinillia protien powder.  Than I had 2 more cups of decafe with the DH.  I have to go out and get the trailer ready to go to a goat show this weekend.

QOTD-I worked with my current DH of 12 years before we were marrid,  He saw me lose a ton of weight when the ex was deciding to leave/leaving.  He was with me when I gained it all back, when I lost most of it again on Atkins for three years and as I gained it all back after foot surgery and three months in a wheel chair(also desided to have that time of life about than)  Thru all of it he has never been bothered with my weight, UNTIL it started to affect my health big time.

He has been to every support meeting and doc appointment with me.  This is the same guy that never went to any of that kind of stuff before.  He was always busy with the farm.  My DD even took me to a minor surgery last minute once so he could get the hay in.

This QOTD got you the whole history

Well, it's almost noon and I just had a can of V-8 for breakfast.  Haven't decided on lunch, maybe a chunk of cheddar cheese.

My hubby and I have been married almost 34 years now, so needless to say we've been through many pounds together, both his and mine.  I just will never understand why he is turned on by me.  I gross myself out.  He has NEVER complained about my weight.  AT ALL.  He's a gem and I'd never trade him in.  I'm more in love with him now than in the beginning.  He's supportive of my wanting to have the surgery, but hasn't been to the doctor with me yet.  Being pre-op I think it's not quite real to him yet.  He knows that it'll improve my health and he's happy for that.  Now I just need to get him to retire so his health will improve when the stress goes away.  I've read in the literature that this surgery can affect relationships both for the better and for the worse.  I just hope that if it does affect ours, it'll be for the better.  I'm going to try my darndest to keep this life going on an even keel.

I think the only time weight loss changes a relationship for the worse is when one of the people is a jerk.  I have seen one person like having a fat partner.  It makes them feel like they have the power in the relationship (as in...she's fat, no one else would want her, etc.) and I've seen one person lose weight and get totally conceited and think they are too good for the other person.  If you have a good relationship to start, it should just improve when your health and confidence does.

We have to give our guys credit.  Obviously they love us no matter what we look like.  Consider yourselves really blessed if you are sharing your life with someone that loves you, is attracted to you, and supports you!  If you aren't with someone right now, then set your standards to find someone who loves you unconditionally.....there are people out there like that!!

Oh sheesh.  Now you guys got me being all mushy and lovey-dovey.  My reputation as a whiney pessimist is going to be ruined! 

The TRUE Brenda has emerged!  We knew it!  HAHA!!! I knew it all along.  You're not fooling anyone!  

Hey all,

It's kinda late in the afternoon, but I thought I'd get my 2 cents in.

Q:  My hubby and I have been married 15 years and have been through quite allot.  We've both gained over 60 lbs after we got married, and we were both quite overweight to begin with.  We've dieted together and cheated together over the years.  Now that he's had the surgery we're going to get healthy together.  I'm really excited about our future.  

Have a great day all,

Edie