My Last Morning Coffee Post!!!

To say that anyone was "trashing" Randy is not true at all.
Randy decided to get on here early every day and post a question of the day.  Lately, some of his answers were a bit sanctimonious, and a few people expressed their opinions about it.  No one "trashed" anyone.  We're allowed to have opinions on here, right?

Of course everyone loved the coffee thread.  It's fun.  It's a way for us to get to know each other.  But it wasn't just Randy, and if he wants to grab his ball and go home, then we have to let him.

Your answer to this post, Paul, was just as condescending.  You really have no right to imply anything about what we are feeling and how we would have answered said question.

I hope we can all be grown ups about this and continue our fun chats.  If you don't like to hear what people have to say about you, then don't post questions and answers every single day.  I don't want anyone to leave, but the world will go on, and even if all of us get mad and quit posting, the MI board will go on as well.

I'm not quite sure why you felt the need to show up out of nowhere and try to defend someone that didn't need defending.

Well,  My "opinion" is , it sure looked like you were trashing him to me, you don`t have to like my "opinion" about this or even read it if you don`t want to,  just like his answer. The answer was the truth  people don't like what their truthful  response  might be to that question. I read through and saw excuses and complaining. Look inside and decide if you were inappropriate.   As to Implying about what you`re feeling and how you answered if your gonna put it out there for everyone to read be ready for the responses. Are you trying to say i don't have the same issues everyone else does so i don`t know how your feeling about it I got news for you .  I fight everyday to do the right thing being 4 years out makes it even harder it never ever gets easier.And yes your comment sure sounded condescending towards me .  About the out of no where post, I have been a member here longer than you and most of the people commenting on this thread. I am looking at the site everyday  and i read most of the threads regularly .Are you saying cause I lurk I can`t comment ?  Don't just make the assumption others are no****ching and reading. Funny how your preaching everyone should have there own opinion but I state mine and I am condescending. Kind of  hypocritical don`t you think?  I still believe you all trashed, him  you all made him feel so bad he is no longer is going to do the coffee post he has been doing  for a while now. Does not take a genius to figure out  you made him feel bad. He is only human . Again if you have nothing nice to say or post  .. I suggest say or post nothing at all.. 

" I still believe you all trashed, him  you all made him feel so bad he is no longer is going to do the coffee post he has been doing  for a while now. Does not take a genius to figure out  you made him feel bad. He is only human ."

I think this is exactly the point of those ticked off at Randy's original post/answer. Everyone is only human. People have opinions.  In all fairness, it was very condescending. I even took offense to it & I'm still in my surgery honeymoon phase.  And to those of you thinking this was a "clique" thing, it really, truly wasn't in any way. This was all Randy.

To Randy-I'm sure you're a very nice person but please, with all due respect, grow up. You don't need to go run & hide because someone hurt your wittle feewings. Say you're sorry about the way you talked to everyone & move on. If you're proud of what you said, then, by all means, repost it. That was very childish to remove it in the first place. Not everyone saw it & is assuming the girls are ganging up on you & you know that's not true. Be a little more careful about how/what you say if you're going to get offended. I mean, really...ugh!

Well.. I guess I'm to blame for all this.  Who knows.  It wasn't the question that bugged me, it was the answer.  Randy just happened to be the person who posted the answer that bugged me.  If it had been some other member who said the same thing, my comments would have been directed there instead.  

I think we veterans of WLS just need to be very careful with how to communicate on forums like this.  We all come from a different place and we are all plodding along on our own journeys ..... so none of us fit into the same tidy little box.  Being able to be an encouragement to and accept each person for who they are and where they are on their own journey is key to this what this whole support thing is about. 

Technically, I'm the newbie here on this morning coffee thread.  I really didn't mean to hurt feelings.  I'm sorry.

Hi All,

I'm with you Edie...........so lost. I haven't been on my computer in days and I come back to this.

Just wanna say that I enjoy the posts when I'm online and all the advice you guys give me. I do feel like this site is very "cliquish" though that's why I've found another site to post on. I know that is not the intentions but as a newbie I just think it's hard to get in......

Hard to get in to what in particular?  Are you referring to the coffee thread, or other things you've posted on other topics?

Our intention is not to be "cliquish".  I for one, have been here, on OH, for nearly 4 years.  I've met many people from OH in person and have formed some very close bonds with some.  I try to post/reply to many different posts.  I think us "oldies" try not to forget where we've come from, which is what keeps us coming here.  We know how important it is to have support.  We've all been newbies at some point and obviously, the longer you are here and participate, the more we get to know each other. 

No one means to hurt anyone's feelings.  Yes, we have fun with some of the posts, but you'll also find that we are supportive.  We do try to give some input to help others.  But we also tend to keep it lighthearted at times.  I, personally, feel that I am so much more than a surgery, a diet, a weight, a size or whatever.  

Well something must have happened as I do not see the question of the day. BUT Randy.. I personally have enjoyed all your posts and appreciate the time you have given to us all. I will miss  your posts...

Gee Randy, I look forward to your posts just like I look forward to my morning cup of coffee.
I'm sorry that you are deciding to no longer post. If it is because of what a couple were talking about, it's too bad. The majority of us find a lot of wisdom and humor in what you post...
Who am I going to drink my decaf and black with tomorrow?
Deb

Okay, here is my proposal....

So we can assure that Randy's Coffee Post lives on, Lets just post on this thread every morning.  That way we will always have him to cheer us up in the mornings.

Hey Randy!  So when are you coming back to Novi Mr????  I would like to see you and Deb again.  And also open a can of whoop ass on ya And you know our JUNOseven club wont be the same until you post again!!!