Another Newbie
Losing a child through miscarriage is tragic, I know, I've been there. You have every right to grieve. But I believe that everything happens for a reason. We may not know it's purpose, but it's there. Maybe this was God's way of saying to you that you need to take care of yourself and then more babies will follow. My nutritionist says WLS is not a sprint, it's a marathon. You won't wake up one morning suddenly svelte. From what you said about your prior 70 lb. weight loss, DH loves you and not the package.
I struggled with the WLS decision for years. When I finally made up my mind to proceed and found that I needed 12 months of a documented diet history I was devastated. I cried for weeks. I felt so low that I couldn't do a chin-up on a curb. Your feelings and thoughts are familiar to me and which I think everyone has felt. I can unequivocally say that this was by far the best decision I made about myself. I'd do it all over again if that's what it takes to get to this point.
You are doing everything right. Keep doing it; you are finding out exactly what steps you need to take. Like other posters said, talk it over with your doctor on which type of surgery is best for you, it's a personal decision. Be tenacious with the insurance company. Never take no for an answer. Fight. Fight. Fight.
You WILL persevere. Post here for support and the 12 months of documented dieting will go by without seeming insurmountable. These are good people here.
I'm looking forward to reading more posts from you and good luck with the dr. visit! Let us know how it goes. I'm rooting for you!
I struggled with the WLS decision for years. When I finally made up my mind to proceed and found that I needed 12 months of a documented diet history I was devastated. I cried for weeks. I felt so low that I couldn't do a chin-up on a curb. Your feelings and thoughts are familiar to me and which I think everyone has felt. I can unequivocally say that this was by far the best decision I made about myself. I'd do it all over again if that's what it takes to get to this point.
You are doing everything right. Keep doing it; you are finding out exactly what steps you need to take. Like other posters said, talk it over with your doctor on which type of surgery is best for you, it's a personal decision. Be tenacious with the insurance company. Never take no for an answer. Fight. Fight. Fight.
You WILL persevere. Post here for support and the 12 months of documented dieting will go by without seeming insurmountable. These are good people here.
I'm looking forward to reading more posts from you and good luck with the dr. visit! Let us know how it goes. I'm rooting for you!
All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press
on to your destination.
on to your destination.
Again thank you for all of the encouragement.
I just wish my posts didn't have to be moderated still. How long does it take to not be moderated anymore, BTW.?
I keep the dialog open with my husband and we finally had a heart to heart and I now feel more secure with is support, thankfully.
I do keep researching the different surgeries. I learned about the VSG recently and it sounds appealing to me. The problem is me not knowing if the insurance will cover it, or at least the plan that my DH has will cover it. I am in Flint and the Hurley Bariatrics doesn't seem to offer it as far as I can tell, but there is a doctor in Troy who does the VSG.
As it is I am still weighing my options and trying to decide which option it is I truly want to do. I am somewhat uncomfortable with the idea of messing with my intestines by cutting them and rerouting them. It's why my first option used to be a Lap band. But the more research I did the less I liked that choice for me, but when I weighed it against completely rearranging my insides I became "torn" between the options. I learned a lot about the scientific data on how the surgeries worked not just through surgeris but also chemically/biologically in how it seemed with some data at the time that just removing some of the stomach seemed to have the same effect on a patient as a complete GBS did.
So to learn about the VSG and knowing I would just be changing my stomach and not rerouting my intestines really has my interest peaked. I will be doing a lot more research and I will be trying to press my insurance to allow me to get the VSG if I can. If not then I will probably just go ahead and do the RnY.
I also agree that even if I have to wait over a year to finally have the surgery I know it will be worth it. I did shed a couple tears over the idea of having to wait 12 months before I can do the surgery because I know I need this sooner rather than later. But then I thought about how I have been over weight for as long as I can remember. 12 months will truly prepare me mentally and physically and hopefully even a little emotionally. A year will be a drop in the bucket when I compare it to the second half of my life as a healthier more active mother and later down the line grandmother. If a year is what it will take then a year is what it will have to be. I can do this.
Like I said I've already been keeping track of my food on thedailyplate dot com. I know I can print this out and take it with me. As much as I would like to say "this time next year I will weigh less" because of WLS, I will just have to stick with "this time next year I will be completely changing my life through WLS".
I read a blog recently about WLS being a tool and I liked how she said that with WLS the first year it is 80% tool and 20% you, second year it's about 50/50 and by the third year it is 20% tool and 80% you.
Next Summer we're planning a family reunion in Cedar Point and if I get the WLS done at the beginning of next year then I will have a few months of WL under my belt and I will hopefully be able to fit into the rides without too much of a problem.
In three years we are planning on going to WDW and it would be a dream come true to be able to go through the park without getting overly tired and to really be able to fit into the rides and to be able to go through the turnstiles without a problem too.
Before when I was researching for our WDW vacation I had to look up tips and advice for overweight patrons to WDW. Instead I won't have to focus on which rides I'll be able to fit into and which rides I won't be able to fit into.
I have a goal. It may not come as soon as I want it to, but it will come and my life will be better for it in more ways than I can even imagine or dream of.
I just wish my posts didn't have to be moderated still. How long does it take to not be moderated anymore, BTW.?
I keep the dialog open with my husband and we finally had a heart to heart and I now feel more secure with is support, thankfully.
I do keep researching the different surgeries. I learned about the VSG recently and it sounds appealing to me. The problem is me not knowing if the insurance will cover it, or at least the plan that my DH has will cover it. I am in Flint and the Hurley Bariatrics doesn't seem to offer it as far as I can tell, but there is a doctor in Troy who does the VSG.
As it is I am still weighing my options and trying to decide which option it is I truly want to do. I am somewhat uncomfortable with the idea of messing with my intestines by cutting them and rerouting them. It's why my first option used to be a Lap band. But the more research I did the less I liked that choice for me, but when I weighed it against completely rearranging my insides I became "torn" between the options. I learned a lot about the scientific data on how the surgeries worked not just through surgeris but also chemically/biologically in how it seemed with some data at the time that just removing some of the stomach seemed to have the same effect on a patient as a complete GBS did.
So to learn about the VSG and knowing I would just be changing my stomach and not rerouting my intestines really has my interest peaked. I will be doing a lot more research and I will be trying to press my insurance to allow me to get the VSG if I can. If not then I will probably just go ahead and do the RnY.
I also agree that even if I have to wait over a year to finally have the surgery I know it will be worth it. I did shed a couple tears over the idea of having to wait 12 months before I can do the surgery because I know I need this sooner rather than later. But then I thought about how I have been over weight for as long as I can remember. 12 months will truly prepare me mentally and physically and hopefully even a little emotionally. A year will be a drop in the bucket when I compare it to the second half of my life as a healthier more active mother and later down the line grandmother. If a year is what it will take then a year is what it will have to be. I can do this.
Like I said I've already been keeping track of my food on thedailyplate dot com. I know I can print this out and take it with me. As much as I would like to say "this time next year I will weigh less" because of WLS, I will just have to stick with "this time next year I will be completely changing my life through WLS".
I read a blog recently about WLS being a tool and I liked how she said that with WLS the first year it is 80% tool and 20% you, second year it's about 50/50 and by the third year it is 20% tool and 80% you.
Next Summer we're planning a family reunion in Cedar Point and if I get the WLS done at the beginning of next year then I will have a few months of WL under my belt and I will hopefully be able to fit into the rides without too much of a problem.
In three years we are planning on going to WDW and it would be a dream come true to be able to go through the park without getting overly tired and to really be able to fit into the rides and to be able to go through the turnstiles without a problem too.
Before when I was researching for our WDW vacation I had to look up tips and advice for overweight patrons to WDW. Instead I won't have to focus on which rides I'll be able to fit into and which rides I won't be able to fit into.
I have a goal. It may not come as soon as I want it to, but it will come and my life will be better for it in more ways than I can even imagine or dream of.
Better late than never! I've been away for a few days but just wanted to say "Welcome!!". These 12 months will fly by, although it doesn't seem like it now. Get specifics from your insurance co. about what type of diet needs to be documented. Some will go w/Weigh****chers & such & others(like mine) had to be doctor supervised. You can start that asap. I only had to do a 6 mo diet but it went by quickly. Fortunately, my sugeons office has a program so I was there once a week that whole time. They took care of everything-dotted the i's & crossed the t's. I had surgery 4 months after finishing the diet program.
Like you, I also wanted more children. However, that had been my excuse for 5 yrs. I had 2 miscarriages & 1 son during that time:) I just decided to put my foot down & get the ball rolling. I took that time off from trying to get pregnant(which was hard for me to do). Now that I've had surgery, I can't wait to start trying again. It is important to wait as your body is losing weight very rapidly. I had the duodenal switch & I need to make sure my vitamin levels are stable before I can try. I believe it's the same for RNY'ers too, but maybe not as extreme?? It's important for the baby's sake. If you decide to do the VSG, please go to a VSG surgeon to discuss that option. An RNY or Lapband surgeon is only able to give you honest answers about those 2 surgeries so those are the ones he/she is going to push, which makes perfect sense(it's their expertise). Can't blame them. They can advise you but it's up to YOU which surgery you want & can live with for the rest of your life(except lapband, of course, which can be taken off). Spend time on the RNY, VSG, & pregnancy boards too!! Good luck & keep us posted!!
Lisa
Like you, I also wanted more children. However, that had been my excuse for 5 yrs. I had 2 miscarriages & 1 son during that time:) I just decided to put my foot down & get the ball rolling. I took that time off from trying to get pregnant(which was hard for me to do). Now that I've had surgery, I can't wait to start trying again. It is important to wait as your body is losing weight very rapidly. I had the duodenal switch & I need to make sure my vitamin levels are stable before I can try. I believe it's the same for RNY'ers too, but maybe not as extreme?? It's important for the baby's sake. If you decide to do the VSG, please go to a VSG surgeon to discuss that option. An RNY or Lapband surgeon is only able to give you honest answers about those 2 surgeries so those are the ones he/she is going to push, which makes perfect sense(it's their expertise). Can't blame them. They can advise you but it's up to YOU which surgery you want & can live with for the rest of your life(except lapband, of course, which can be taken off). Spend time on the RNY, VSG, & pregnancy boards too!! Good luck & keep us posted!!
Lisa
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