Thought for the day

To all of our beloved pre-ops and newbies...... I have heard it said that this site has "changed" and there is too much going on that is off the topic of WLS. Let me enlighten you...... you need us silly post ops to post off topic things!  We do serve a purpose.  It's important for those who haven't had surgery or lost a big amount of weight to see that one day, your life will return to normal.   All of us that are post op have been where you are now.  We were consumed with thoughts of pre-approvals and insurance companies, pre surgery diets and our weight in general.  Now we are "normal" (or as close to normal as some of us can be).  We talk about going out for food or drinks in a joking manner.  We can laugh at ourselves without feeling hurt or self depreciating.  There are days that go by that we dont even think about food.  Thoughts of WLS don't consume our lives.  I remember being immediately out of surgery and thinking that I would never have time to do anything bu****ch what I eat and read about WLS and talk to other people about WLS.  So now we give to you the other sides of us.  The sides that have stopped letting food and weight and all those issues take over everything.  We laugh and joke and kid each other and develop friendships that are strong even if they are online.  Know that there is light at the end of the tunnel.  That one day, you'll wake up, jump out of bed, and might not even think about what you weigh, or how bad you feel, or how all of your clothes are too tight.  You might just go get a pedicure, or post a silly note, or share with us what your weekend will be like.   If you don't like the off topic (OT) posts, then don't read them.  But they are important, you just didn't know it!

Vary well put, I joke around all the time but sometimes we have to let people see how we really are to. Every thing we do in life have to be accounted for even the bad times.

Thanks for sharing!!!

Brenda- WOO HOO! Love your post! I am a preop and I am tickled to death to read the way you are all as "normal" as I am !!!????   I have found that whenever I have a serious question about something, I always get what I need from this board. I appreciate that it may be mixed with a little bit of humor. That is how I live my life now and would expect no less after WLS. Sure, I can obsess as much as the next gal about food, etc., but I need that smattering or even outright bursts of humor and laughter to get me through!   Keep it coming!!!

You know what us newbies are going through..... That is why we come here, at least I do.  To get information, and yes my day is CONSUMED with thoughts of weightloss, and food choices and moving around.  To see that I can (and will) become "normal" someday through you guys lightens up my day. Yes, I still research and still take notes and share with my hubby all I am learning, but I still have a sense of humor and a damn good one too.  I was wondering if anyone just posted about "things going on at home" I don't see that much because maybe this is for WLS, but its not the only thing in our lives.  Now, dont get me wrong, WLS is very serious, but maybe is we shook off all the info for a while and just posted about the day, the kids, work, goings ons.... then we can see that we are normal, in our own sense, and have things in common,  besides the issue of weight.  If that makes any sense...  In other words, I agree with ya...

Well said, Brenda!  I'm still fitting somewhere in the middle of "normal" and obsessing about weight and WLS issues.  I totally enjoy the OT posts because I learn something new about the friends I have made here.  Those posts also teach me, like you stated, that I will one day be "normal".  Thank you all for posting little pieces of who you are to lighten a serious topic. Jenn

AMEN! You know I am the first one to joke or start some s***..LOL Lighten up whoever takes offense- dont read it.. Shannon

I agree, Brenda!  We are people, not just surgeries.  It's so easy to get consumed by the whole "process"...before, during and after. It is important to see the light at the end of the tunnel, especially during those dark days of what seems to be never ending thoughts of "when/if this will happen" or "why did I do this to myself"  or "will I ever feel normal again?"

I enjoy the OT posts as well as the WLS related posts.