i am 13 days from date/what would you decide?

hi everone, m date is sept 17, i have a teen currently in juvenile detention, / big trouble,, lots of appts scheduled for him too, and i am now (i work out 5 days a week faithfully HARD) A,ND now my bmi is about 35. no other stuff going on health wise. would yuou cancel? or would you follow thru? i could go either way but history is  i havent  kept weight off well, but i never had physical fitness like i do now either. help please!! feedback,, if i choose to cancel i need to do so asap. my appts are today, on the 7th pre op, and the 6th pre surg. etc.... and im not using my protiens only today... please, im asking for opinions.... i know i can t put my life on hold because my son decided to not b ehave. he's 15... thanks so much. i am now 5/1, and weigh 186.... i started at 231 last yhear....ann.

Ann, Wow, sounds like you have quite a bit on your plate now. I am sure you realize you are the only one who can truly make the decision, but I also understand you wanting input. Which procedure are you having? How long do you expect to be in bed recovering? Can you easily reschedule the surgery when things calm down? I am a mom also & I have to say my instinct would be to do what was best for my child - again only you can make the decision. Good luck with whatever you decide, Suzie

Aside from the problems with your son you say you have a BMI of 35. That alone may keep you from having it.

The surgery will help you keep the weight at a manageable level if you follow the directions of your surgeon.

I personally would do it if I were in your shoes. If your son is old enough to be incarcerated then he is old enough to know you have to take care of yourself regardless of his bad decisions.

You have a tough road to hoe. I wish you luck.

kp

thanks everyone. that is what I pesonally feel about it in regard to my son too. I love him to piceces, but he will grow up and move on, and I have myself to look after for certain. I actually just left  a message with the scheduler to call me back, that i may be cancelling. (biting nails here) thats not  feeling right eit her. maybe I need more time. im sorting it  out.. love hearing from you guys. are great here.  Hugs. Ann.

Ann, Tough decisions and a tough time for you.  Sorry to hear things are going on a different path than you had planned.  I just had my surgery 3 weeks ago -- LAP RNY.  I did have an infection in one of the incision sites and that held me back somewhat.  If it wasn't for that I think I would've been back at most things within a week.  One thing I wasn't expecting (and I've been very open since the surgery) was all the support I've gotten from everybody.  I think you'll find co-wokers/neighbors/your son getting on board to help you out.  Plus, even though it sounds like you've done great already with your weight loss you'll find more energy to help deal with life and helping your son find the right path again.  I'm amazed (as are my friends) every day how much more energy I had than the day before.  I'm walking faster, thinking faster, wanting to get stuff done faster -- I'm surprising myself with this stuff!!  I say go for the surgery, the extra energy by being healthier might make you stronger to face the difficulties life is throwing at you. Good luck! --Sax

Sorry to hear you are going through this with your son. I am a foster parent who takes care of teen age girls who have all been in detention or residential. I have 6 of them in my home, so I know the pain these kids can cause parents. You need to make this decision for yourself. You need to take care of yourself and feel good about yourself or you can't take care of anyone else. You need self confidence and health 1st. Good luck with your son. I'll keep you in my prayers.

w.g.

You know, sometimes you just have to do something for yourself.  That is how I felt about my surgery.  What a good feeling to put myself first for a change. Of course I'm a diva, so that helped. But seriously, you are number 1. P