Scared!

This is my first time that I have posted & have to say I'm a little nervous. I want you to know that I have been reading everyone's post & have learned so much from all of you with all the information that you have given - thanks! My surgery date is this Tuesday, August 14th. I am scared to death. I don't feel like I have family support and going for this all on my own. Everyone in my family thinks I'm going to die on the table. I know everyone gets nervous before any surgery, but did anyone else go through this? Also, has anyone had their surgery with Dr. Saber in Kalamazoo, MI? Just looking for any input anyone has!

You wouldn't be normal if you wasn't scared.   It's natural.   We've all been there and know exactly how you feel.   Family support is very important, talk to them.   Let them know that you'll have a much better quality of life .    You'll be healthier and live longer.  Let them read profiles and see how you feel.   I would have died if i didn't do this surgery.    Good luck in your journey Linda

Like linda said, "being scared is natural".  We have all been threw it.  My thought was "I'm going to die an early death if I don't have the surgery so I put my trust in God". Family support is important however, this is something only you can do for yourself.  Good luck and keep us posted. Kathy A.

Hijack... You got it to flip!!!!  Yeah Kathy

Hi Vallers.. I know exactly were you are coming from. I didnt have much family support. They were all very nervous for me. I tried my best to educate them but ultimatly, I told them this was my decision. I was making it 1) to save my life  2) based on being as educated about the procedure as I possibly could be and 3) I knew all the risks but in the end, my life was more important. They finally realized that this was going to happen whether they fought me on it or not.  I am glad I made my decision and I feel like I was finally given a second chance for a future filled with good health. Sometimes you just have to take the bull by the horns and go for something. Being afraid is natural. But in the end, you have to do what is best for YOU. You will do fine. August 14th is a great day and I know God will be smiling down upon you. Good luck! I will keep you in my prayers for extra support...

Vallers, I am in Plainwell, so I am near you.  I had my surgery on July 25th at Borgess.  I have heard of  Dr. Saber, although I used Dr. Verseman because I had met him before and really liked him.  I think it would be unnatural not to be a bit nervous, but think of all the positive things that will ome of this surgery.  Unfortunately, sometimes family can be a pain in the butt rather than being supportive of your decision.  I amnew to this site, but everyone here seems to really care about one another, I think it will be a great resource in the future.  Good luck!

With me, my mom is worried and my sister is all for it... I do not see that I have any quality of life going on like I am now with all this extra weight... plus with my family background I figure it is just a matter of time before that catches up with me.     You family cares about you and they are worried... that is normal.  My mom is the same way.  I don't know your health history, but the bottomline is, you are doing this do help yourself.   It is a major life changing decision that only you can make.  Once the surgery is over, I'm sure your family will be more supportive.  If not, we are always here to listen and give support.  I will be thinking of you on the 14th.                                                                     

Please give yourself a postive talk; it is very important to go into the surgery with that!! Stay clear of negative nelly's.. Tell those you can't stay clear of your descision has been made; and then thanks for support (be firm about negativity, tell'em knock it off please)! You are not alone; and it is normal to feel what you are feeling! We have all been right where you are! You are about to begin an incredible journey to health and happiness like you have never known before! You will still have ?'s so if any of us can help let us know! Best wishes to a easy recovery, and new beginning.. YOU ARE GOING TO BE FINE! Prayers for you and your surgeon. Hugs, Judy R

Hello, I go in on the 15th and feel exactly the same, scared to death. But, I too have been reading (kind of obsessively) the OH mesaage board and some really good blogs from there and it has helped calm me quite a bit. Thanks to all of you out there.....  My husband is not the talkative kind and he is really skinny  - he hasn't been too awfully supportive and my older kids (26,24,13 & 5) have been really scared and worried, but they know I am firm on doing this. My daughter is actually going to come and care for me when I get home. I send you a huge hug, because I understand your fear, and because I will share in the joy of a new life after. Sounds corny, but really........Good luck, I will be thinking of you.