Support Meeting Tonight

Tonight is our support meeting at St Mary Mercy and I know I should be going but tonight is my sons Cub Scout Pack Meeting. He will be receiving badges for his accomplishments so far and I don't want him to miss it but I feel guilty for missing the support meeting. What should I do?

Hi Stacey, You can always join the westside losers for our meetings. We are meeting on the 8th (I think~I'll let you know) at 7:00pm at Denny's restaurant on Wayne Rd. God bless, Annette

I'll probably come to your meeting plus I know Sheryl the manager. I haven't seen her since my surgery and I would love to show off my weight loss. My son is my only child. He will always be the only child (being pregnant was the worst!!). I only have one chance to live these moments and I'm going. I was just concerned that tomorrow is my 90 day appointment at the Drs and they would ask me where I was. I can't be all places at all times. I am a single parent and it is just hard to make everyone else happy. My son means the world to me and I'm going!! Thank for your input. No longer guilty..... Stacey B

Stacey, How many chances will your son have to get badges for his accomplishments so far, that you don't want to miss out on??? Sounds like to me, you need to go see your son get his badges. The support group will "always" be there. Your son will grow up and be a man some day...and these are the times that you want to cherish. I say go see your son receive his badges. That's what I'd do. Stacey W 310/151

Stacy, As a Cub Scout leader and a WLS alumni, I feel qualified to give you my two cents!!! If it were me, I'd go to the Pack meeting. It will mean so much to your son. Our kids used to get an award based on how many parents showed up. Plus, you have to go show off your weight loss to those other parents It's so hard to keep the committment to SG meetings when they are always the same time every month. My U of M group used to only meet one Thursday a month at 5pm. That drove me crazy! I wondered if I was the only one with a job and a family. Now we've added one Saturday meeting a month, so that makes it easier. Try to join the Westland group when they meet. It might be nice to get a good number of us in this area together so we can meet casually and not worry when things (like Scouts) come up. Give your son a big hug and tell him you're proud of him. Support is always here when you need it. Brenda

Value yourself by attending. If you have to slip in late or leave early, fine, but come to the meeting. The Westland group is convivial but the St Marys support is part of your surgical package. There will be good information, and strong support from the staff you trusted with your life. Supporting yourself will help support your cub scout. Can he go with another cub? Or be dropped off and picked up? No offense to the westies, but this is an apples and oranges comparison. The St Marys meetings are structured and themed. There is often a guest speaker. They are a reinforcement of what we learned before surgery, or tried to. I've attended six of these meetings and been given good, professional information at each one.

Don't feel guilty at all....go to the cub scout meeting...that moment will never happen again...then go to Next months WLS meeting...all is well..have a wonderful holiday! Maria