today is my one yr.

Hello all, Today is 1 yr. since my surgery and man has everything changed. I have lost 110 lbs and my doctor is very pleased and so am i. I feel really good. I recently left my husband after 15 yrs of a bad relationship and of course he blames the wt. lose. He has been very controlling and verbally abusive and now he won't let me go and is tearing my kids up inside. I really think this is for the best. I just wish he would let me go and leave the kids out of it. If anyone has been through this and can heklp please email me at [email protected]. My mom and the rest of my family are afraid he's going to hurt me. I don't but he is really acting crazy. Thanks for listening. Love and kisses, Misty

Congrats on the weight loss Misty. Sorry to hear you are going through so much. I hope you can get things worked out for the best for you. Stay safe and take care of those kiddos..... You know what is the best for you and your kids. Good Luck... Shawn M.

Misty, my first marriage was very abusive. When i tried to leave he tried to kill me, i left in an ambulance and never went back. After the hospital my son and i went to a domestic violence shelter which helped tremendously, financially, legally, and mentally. First of all you need to get a restraining order to protect you and your kids. You might now think he's going to hurt you, but divorce can make ppl crazy and do things you never expect. Next, make sure to let your kids know it's not their fault. Kids have a way of blaming themselves and it hurts. Get them and yourself into counseling NOW!!! Don't talk bad about him to your kids, they will learn it all by themselves. A lot of ppl blame the weight loss, and in a way , it is. When we were heavier we took a lot of crap cause we didn't care or have the self respect we have now. Don't give in, you're doing the right thing. If you need to talk just let me know anytime, i could even send you my number if you want to call me. Take care of those kids and don't let him get to them. Hugs Linda

in The Westland area there is a domestic violence shelter you can get free counseling and help from. It's called first step, the helped me out so much. Call them and see what they can do for you. Don't be afraid to ask for help, there's lots of it out there , you just have to want it. Hugs Linda

Congrats on your loss. That is significant poundage. As for the other problem, I believe you have to look out for you and your kids first. This is one of my areas but I am not comfortable talking online about it. I would suggest getting some professional advice on the matter. The one thing I can offer is to try and avoid letting emotion make your decisions. Sounds dumb but if you think from outside of it as a third person perspective would see it you will make better decisions. Good luck. BB