I am home now..dad has found peace.

Dear Megan, You are a sweetie and we are all here for you. You have a year of unpleasant 1st's ahead of you and it will not be easy. (The 1st Christmas without dad, the first of your birthday's he misses etc etc) it will be the little things that catch you by surprise. I remember 6 months after my dad died and I was shopping in the grocery store looking at some cut of meat I didin't recognize. Being my dad was a butcher I automatically thought to myself well I will just call dad and ask him about it. Then it hit me like a cold splash of water that I could no longer do that. Well I had to leave the store right then and there because I was so overwhelmed with emotions. So hang onto to the good thoughts, the memories and your dad's love as it will get you through this. Hard thing is unfortunatley we have to go through it all and can't go around it. Please know it is in those times we are all here for you to hold you up and care. Patt

(((((((((((((((De))))))))))))) A big bear hug to you hon. I am am sad to hear about your loss also. I am so glad she was peaceful and able to be at home. The staff warned us that sometimes we will rally before we pass and it ends up giving hope to the family. They called it "the calm before the storm" I understand so much about feeling like the child. I actually had to work myself up and convince myself that my dad was now two things...my father and my patient. Not as easy as I thought it would be. I was alone with him from 8am-7pm...this was when he was beginning to drift away from us. I went and sat on his floor trying to do my schoolwork. Honest to god, I wanted to curl up next to him and just hold him but I was afraid to hurt him. I was so glad when the lady he lived with came home. He passed two and a half hours later. Please know that we did a good thing. I do not know how much your mother was aware of what was happening. In my dad's case, he made the decision while in the hospital. He said, "I can take these meds and die here or I can take them at home and die there." My dad made a plan, I was just a part of the support system for him to follow through. May god bless you also Happy Thanksgiving and positive vibes Megan

You're a good daughter. kp

So I have been told. I am now heading into good wife and good mommy mode. Happy Thanksgiving and positive vines Megan

lol...I knew someday I was going to send out a positive vine. But you know what I mean.

May you find blessings during this difficult time...

Thank you Rhonda....I have so many they are easy to find. Happy Thanksgiving and positive vibes Megan

Megan, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. It is good that you were with him for his last few days, and it sounds like you had a cherishable time. Will pray for you and your family. God Bless you. Teri

Thank you Teri. It was one of them rides where I would not have turned the car to go in any other direction. Happy Thanksgiving and positive vibes Megan

I am sorry for your loss. I'll pray that you and your family find comfort knowing that your father HAS found peace. Karen