I am home now..dad has found peace.

My father came home last Thursday under hospice care. He expressed six things he wanted to do. 1. See the Michigan / Ohio State game 2. Have liver and onions 3. Have pork chops and scalloped potatos 4. Smoke a cigeratte 5. Sit at his computer. 6. Die at home peacefully. He did all of these things. My father passed away at 9:40 tuesday evening. He was comfortable the last four days of his life. He also was alert until the last twelve hours. I always said I would never want to live with my parents again. I am glad I was able to live with my dad his last five days of life. He was so worried about the sacrifices that were being made to be able to have him at home. All there was in the home was his best friend and myself. The last clear thoughts that he expressed to me were about my children and my husband. I explained to him what the plans were for this week and where everyone would be. He said "So you have everything figured out so you can be with me? Honey, you can't do this. You have a husband and kids." This was about twelve hours before his passing. I was so taken by surprise how quickly he turned and even more so when I realized he was no longer with us. During the football game on Saturday, my dad yelled my name with such urgency. I went in to see what was up. He said to me "Remember what I told you about dying?" I just sat and listened. He went on, " You see those players? Their lifes are moving on even though Bo died. Dont forget life still moves on." Thank you all here in this forum. I know this is not wls related. I really needed to have a place to share and to hear from others, that understand what has happened. Positive vibes Megan

Megan, It is obvious from your post that your father was a wonderful Dad, and that you come from a very caring and thoughtful family. Your children will learn and benefit from the way you demonstrated empathy, love and loyality to your Dad. I wish you comfort and peace. Kate

I thank you Kate. I agree about my children. They have learned some new lessons this week. Now that I have slept, I feel great. Happy Thanksgiving and positive vibes Megan

Hi Megan, Though I have never posted to you before I wanted to express my condolences to you for the loss of your dad. Yes he is at peace and what a wonderful thing that you were able to be with him in his last days. It is something you will cherish the rest of your life. Memories of that time will hopefully help you during the times when you will miss him so much your heart will feel like it is breaking in 2. As they say I have "been there, done that." 7 years later I still miss my dad..

Patt, thank you. You said it all. I would never change a thing. One of my best decisions I ever made was to be there with him. I will miss him forever. Happy Thanksgiving and positive vibes Megan

Megan, My thoughts and prayers are still with you sweetie as well as my condolence. You did a wonderful thing for your dad and yourself. You will look back on this with much peace in your heart and soul forever. Hugs, Phyllis

((((((((((((((Phyllis))))))))))))))) Thank you for your support through this. I enjoyed your notes to me. They really meant a lot. I should be seeing you next week. Happy Thanksgiving and positive vibes Megan

Hi Megan, My prayers are with you & your family. I know what you are going through, my mom just passed away on Friday here at home & was only under hospice's care for about 10 days. I thought she was coming around & getting better. I was wrong. She went very peacefully Thank God. She was 89, but no matter how old they are, they are still our parents & we are there children (who feel much younger & alone when this happens.) God Bless you at this time. Huggs De

De, Let me also offer my condolences to you about your mom. My own mom died way back in 1978 on the Tuesday before Thanksgiving. To this day I don't know the date but it always comes to mind on the "Tuesday "before Thanksgiving". To tie this in to OH, how ironic that one year ago on the "Tuesday before Thanksgiving" I was traveling to Brazil for my WLS. (I was the carved one on Thanksgiving instead of the bird..) De, you so "hit the nail on the head" when you said how we all feel so much younger and alone when we lose our parents. Please know you are not alone. We are here for you and so is the man upstairs. Certainly no replacement but at least I hope you don't feel all alone for too long becasue like I said you aren't alone.. Wishing you some peace and comfort during this sad time. Patt

Wow, the Tuesday before Thanksgiving. I said to my husband last night..it will always be the Tuesday before Thanksgiving. Happy anniversary on your surgery one day early. Positive vibes Megan