Karryn, where are you? I Miss ya!

Heh girl, I try to email you, but it bounces back to me! Wow, hi everyone! It's been sooo long since I've been here. I need to reconnect with everyone like I never have before. To have friends is great, but to have friends who knows what you are going through, even though I am 1 1/2 years out, is what I am in desperate need of. It's amazing what a gastric bypass will do to a marriage...I am divorced (1 year in November), the victim of domestic abuse...a big part due to his jealousy and insecurities immediately after the operation. I am here to stay, this board helped me through absolutely every step of the way pre and post surg. Thanks to everyone and pre-thanks as I know I will be welcome back with open arms! Kisses

Welcome back Carol. We'll be here for ya.

Thanks Ann, that's what's so wonderful about this site...

Hi Carol, Sorry to hear you had to go thru that. Yes, you ARE welcomed back with open arms!!! We hear this type of thing happening over and over again after WLS, so don't feel alone. I guess I'm one of the lucky ones with a great, supportive husband, but I have had different struggles with myself in different areas. It's not an easy road sometimes. I know there are many that find marital problems coming to light afterward. And that's just it....the problems were probably there before you had WLS....but those kinds of things are harder to see when you have low self-esteem with being overweight, etc. Now that you are more assertive, happier, etc., some just don't like it that way. They'd rather be in control. Well, I'm glad that you have moved on and just know that you are a great person...strong and proud!! We are here for you! Hugs, Theresa

Ahhh, Thanks Theresa, I know we had problems before, but wow did the change change him too. Him being ethhic (Albanian) made him a creature from hell. All the while telling me he physically and mentally liked me heavy, and some men do, but it wasn't healthy and I don't just like the new me, but I love me and that's what scared him. Hugs to you too!

Hi Carol, I am so glad you got out of that situation. i went through it with my first marriage, and finally got away after he tried to kill me. After that i was lucky and found a great man. After living with that i learned to be stubborn and never let anyone control me. I looked at your profile and you haven't updated in a long time.....how much have you lost? Got any new pictures. I am betting you look hot now and so glad you had surgery. Email me anytime. Hugs Linda

Wow Linda, do you look different too! I've lost 125lbs. My 2nd anniversary will be Dec. 21st and I would like to lose 30 more pounds (too much junk in the trunk) I knew everyone would be within reach once I posted, everyone here is awesome and I'm so happy to back in the "loop". Hugs too!

I don't look like this picture anymore LMAO . It was taken in july 05 and i've lost a lot more. But i'll have new pics on here sometime this week thanks to my buddys erin and kathryn. We are always here for you if you need us. Hugs Linda

Carol Good for you for leaving an abusive situation! I know this surgury can be hard on relationships, I do marriage counsoling for a domestic asault agency. It will only get better for you now! I Know I've been blessed with a wonderful supportive hubby. I thank God every day for him. In fact Im going to go tell him again how much i Appreciate him!

Hi Jo, I go to First Step for counseling and they are wonderful. I know it's got to be hard on husbands, but I had filed for divorce and then after that he started the abuse, actually it will be 1 year since the first time Sept 27, and then 3 weeks ago he tried to literally run me and my boyfriend over as we sat outside on the bench, he drove the car through my front yard at a very high speed and literally was coming towards us, fortunately we both ran for our life and made it into the house. We thought he was coming through the living room but he was able to stop the car, put it in reverse and sped away as the neighbor chased him out of the neighborhood. So 2 assault with a vehicle are pending and this time it is a felony. So the court proceedings have now been bound over to downtown on a circuit level, which means here I go again (he was just sentenced 2 weeks prior to this from domestic abuse that happened May 18th and June 13th!) He's got nerve, he wants me, his girlfriend called me saying that when he would come home from work he would cry that he missed me and missed his baby girl (me). I said to her that aren't you sick of him crying about me??? So, everyone just pray for my strength, because this time I am literally fighting for my life and now it has involved my boyfriend so I have a lot of guilt although I know I shouldn't, that's what I am working through. Hugs to you Jo