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Hello All, Surgery is Monday, I leave on a plane to MI on Sunday. I am so scared and very close to cancelling. Why am I having these second thoughts??? Does that mean I shouldn't have the surgery? I am changing my healthy insides forever. I will never be the same. There are so many things that can go wrong. Will I regret having this elective surgery that can make me unhealthy??? I fear all the complications and possible death! I just lost 30 pounds and am down to 215. Can I lose this on my own? All these questions are scaring me to death. Please encourage me to go through with this. I've been trying to lose weight since age 10 and haven't kept it off. I know I should have this surgery. My weight is the only goal I have never been able to achieve. But my family is so beside themselves with worry since they can't be there with me. I hate putting everyone through this. Please tell me everything will be ok!!! Scared Mousie

Mousie, hang in there. I think this is the best thing that a heavy person who has lost and gained over and over can do for themselves. The nerves are normal. I dont think anyone has gone under the knife and not had second thoughts. I am not sorry at all that I did this, wouldnt change it for the world! Good luck, teri

Hi, I am now over 1 year post op, have lost 151 lbs, and have never felt better. I had thoroughly done my research, trusted my surgeon with my life (duh) and had been talking to people about this particular surgery for over a decade. I knew what I was getting into and though I too had nerves, I had no reservations at all. I would do it again on my own. Worrying won't do anyone any good, have faith. If the sky is what you seek, then do what it takes to get there and conquer your fears. If you set it up to go great, and don't leave any room for error, then the assurance going in will put your mind at ease. I was tired of looking in the mirror and being tired and obese, but not anymore. I am not longer obese. And, I live a great life, full of life, happiness and energy. Prioritize what's important to you and if being healthy and living longer is your goal, then you have nothing to fear but fear itself.

What you are feeling is NORMAL! Please know that. It can be nerve-wracking, but very worth it. I believe if you have come this far and searched out every avenue, and you are ready. We all have been thru the gaining and losing, gaining and losing, gaining.....etc., and it just never ends. You know that. You are ready for this! Everything is in place! Don't let the fear grab you....you know it's best for you. You will look back at this post in about 3 months and think, WHAT WAS I THINKING???? You will be very happy! Best of luck and HANG IN THERE! Hugs, Theresa

Everything will be fine. You are just nervous; and rightfull so, but once the surgery is over you will be back up and living a healthy lifestyle. You are saving your life!! I think of it like this...Say you were sick and needed kidney and one became available....would you not take it? Would you not go forward with the surgery because there might be complications or would you have it and save your life? There is only one right answer and that is ...You would save your life. The surgery is going to help save your life. You could try to diet again. You could gain the weight back again. There are so many things you could do or....you could have the surgery and know that this is your step toward saving your life. Excess weight takes a toll on our bodies. We are not made to hold all this weight. Our hearts are not made to deal with all this weight. Ultimately the choice is yours but think about 5 or 10 years from now and what your weight might be if you don't have the surgery. Then think what it would be if you had the surgery. Think about what your life would be like and all the things you will be able to do. Keep your head up. Stacey

Hi there, All of these thoughts are completely normal. I had all of these thoughts and more right until I walked through the front doors at the hospital. I just knew deep down this was the right decision. And now that I am 9 months out I am so proud of myself for being brave and making this positive change in my life. You will be fine! It is an amazing journey. Meg (-151 pounds) 340/189

You are going through normal emotions I went throught the same ones when I had my surgery plus I did suffer from complications and had two miserable years from being sick but I am so happy that I had my wls because I feel like a new person with having lost over 100 pounds and I have a new lease on life. Tricia

Get on that plane and DO IT!! You will be more dissapointed if you don't!!! Best wishes on Monday!! Shannon

Mousie, I am not at the point you are, but all I can say is to remember why you are doing this and to stay focused on the goal. Hope you have a safe and good trip to Michigan. Good Luck. Shawn M.

Thank you all for your kind words. I do not have an angel, so you won't hear how I am doing until I can post it myself, but I willl let you all know when I am home. I am still nervous but you all made me feel better. I know this is right for me. I just feel bad for my husband and family and friends who all have to worry. I just hope everything goes smoothly. Wish me luck, Mousie