4 days till surgery..

it's four days till my big day, and im having the worst time ever... im scared about the surgery.. i was going to have my fiance stay at the hospital with me, and this morning he left me.. i sat all day and cried... it's only 4 days until my 19th birthday too... i've never felt so terrible... i can't beleive this is happening to me....

Well Kathryn....that is terrible news and I'm sorry you are going thru this. I don't know of a delicate way of saying this, but if he left you in the lurch like this, he probably wasn't worth having in the first place. You are so young and have your whole life ahead of you.... more than you could ever imagine! Maybe he was scared of the surgery...maybe scared of you getting thin....it could be anything, and then again, maybe he will come back when he has time to think. I don't know what brought on the breakup, but whatever the outcome, just remember that YOU are the most important thing to think about right now. Try to stay strong....I know it's hard but stay focused. The surgery will go just fine. I know Dr. Wood is one of the very best surgeons so you are in very capable hands! Just take it one day at a time. You have all of us for support, and I'm sure you will receive posts from people that live near you...maybe someone could come and visit you in the hospital. I can't "be" there but I can support you at least by email. Feel free to write me if you'd like. Best of luck to you! I'll keep you in my prayers. Hugs, Theresa

Hi Kathryn WOW you sure are going through alot right now. I agree, your man don't sound worth it if he left you in your time of needing him. He might be back, but for now you need to concentrate on yourself and your surgery. You are doing this for you, so you can live a healthier happier life. I am sure your surgery will go great, I will put you in my prayers. HAPPY EARLY BIRTHDAY! Big Hugs and Prayers are heading your way. ~hugs~ Cheryl

(((((((((Kathryn)))))))))))) Sorry you are going through this right before your sugery. But like everyone else said, if he left during a time when you need him so much, then he is not worth it. You deserve better than him. Take care and try to stay positive. Shawn M.

Hang tough Katy...you're going to get through this. Do your parents live nearby? Can they be there for you during this awful time? Girlfriends? You're doing the very best thing you could ever be doing for yourself. You are young and time is on your side. Think of all of the new experiences waiting right around the corner for you. I wish I could help you out in some way, but I'm way on the other side of the state. Please keep up posted these next few days and tell us how you are doing. hugs and more hugs, Julie

((((Kathryn)))) I am so sorry he left you at this time...but he may be back after he thought things over....and if he doesn't come back...he isn't worth crying over. You are going to have a new life and soon you will have many new experiences!!! I send you the best of luck and I will keep you in my prayers!!! Hugs Judy

OMG, I am so sorry that happened to you. Why did he leave? It could very well be he is intimidated by you losing all the weight. A lot of men are threatened by that. It is time to concentrate on YOU. I am having surgery July 31 with Dr. Wood. As a matter of fact, I just emailed you! Maybe we willl see each other in the hospital! If not, we can at least support each other since we'll be going through this together. Try to concentrate on you and your future being thin and healthy. He will be eating his heart out soon and running back to you, that is if you even want him back then. I find a lot of overweight people settle for someone they may not normally choose because they don't think they can get any better. God works in strange ways. Maybe there is a reason he separated you two right before your surgery, to open you up to a better, more fulfilling relationship. Who knows. I'm sure you are hurting and do not want to hear that right now. Try not to think of it as over and just concentrate on your surgery. He will come around if he's worth it. Good luck and hope to see you at Harper. Mousie (Janet)

You all are ABSOLUTELY amazing... i want to thank you all so very much for all of your support and kind words during this hard time... he is a jerk, he now is a self professed liar and user who stole alot of my belongings when he left.. and treats me like dirt... who needs a loser like that when im going to be skinny and can choose the pick of the litter! still hurting inside but im trying to occupy my time with friends... love you all!