i'M BEING SET UP

Hey everybody, I just had to vent just a little bit. I'm back to work and everything is going great as far as my WLS goes. My office manager had WLS a year ago and has been doing some horrible things to her body like eating the wrong things and finishing everything on her plate even if is to much. Well for the last couple of weeks she has been tring to push all of those wrong things down my throat and she always watch what I eat or how Im eating. Normally I just laugh it off and tell her I dont want to be sick like you and walk away. But today I think she did it for me. It was a girl at work birthday and I bought the cake for her, butterfinger ice cream cake. Thats her favorite. Another lady made me a sugar free dessert becasue she knows I dont do sugar any more. As I put me a little helping of this sugar free dessert on my plate my office manager cut a slice of that butterfinger cake and dumped it on top of my dessert. I could spit bullets. It took everything I had in me not to hurt her. She ruined my dessert and laughed about it like it was funny. I dont know what to do about this lady tomorrow any suggestions Dayja

I would have embarrassed her in front of everyone, by politely saying, "You really hurt my feelings just now I was looking forward to that dessert and you ruined it. I am sorry you think that was funny." And if you looked all tearful and hurt, everyone would have looked at her like she was an ass and would have sided with you. Guilt works wonders. Wendy

OMG Wendy, I first have to say I agree with you!! LOL Guilt works awesome sometimes! LOL But dang girl you look AMAZING!!!!!! I didn't recognize you from posts so i had to look at your profile. You are slammin girl! WAY TO GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep up the good work you look GREAT! Hugs, Di

Thanks Di, Your just so sweet! Wendy

It sounds to me that your office manager is jealous because she is no longer the center of attention! One of the things that you could have said at that moment was "Didn't I tell you I was allergic to that Butterfinger cake?? Now I can't eat the sugar free dessert that {insert name} was so kind to bring to me because you had to ruin it!" Is she starting to gain her weight back? Perhaps you can suggest to her to go attend a support group. I had stomach problems several years b4 I had my weight loss surgery so I used most of that for the reason behind my weight loss - the other part I said that I was watching what I ate. I don't think I will tell anyone at either of the two groups that I belong to that I has WLS....

I have no idea how you kept your cool. I would have been so very mad and she would have got it from me. I probably would have put that cake in her face, or even threw it at her. if i were you , tomorrow i would go higher up and tell what has been going on and that you don't feel comfortable with someone who is intentionally trying to make you sick. I would not say one word to her anymore, just do your work and leave. I hope it gets better for you. Hugs Linda

Thanks everybody for your in-put. Tomorrow I'm going to pull her aside and we are going to have some words. I think becasue I am so calm she does not know how much she has pissed me off. My co-worker that made the sugar free Strawberry dessert for me was pissed and had a few words with her. But tomorrow I'm going to hurt her feellings.

That's absolutely horrible that this woman would do this to you, when she KNOWS full well what she's doing, comon, she's had information and she had to be told what to eat and what not to eat and even if she hasn't she should respect that you do not wish to eat those types of thing...How dare her want to push her bad habits off on you...the nerve of some people...GRRRR!! I'm pissed off for you!! Sounds like nothing more than jealousy to me. As for giving her a piece of your mind...Just be sure you are not actually "playing into her hand" she just might be purposely trying to get under your skin and push you to the edge...she might even try to get you fired, if she has been evil enough to do what she is doing...she sounds like an idiot!!

You are so right she is an idiot. (lol). I'm actually leaving this site and going to work at a new site the first of july so I will not have to deal with her much longer. I think she is one of those types of people that just does not know any better. She says and does alot of things without thinking. And all she can say is I wish I had your strength and confidence.

Hi Dayja, Some people just are not worth our time. I would write her off. She knew exactly what she was doing. She knew the butterfinger cake would make you sick. You need to ask yourself what kind of person would do something like that knowing that she could have made you very I'll. Your manager has some serious isssues to pull a stunt like that! You should go over her head and report her to her boss. Just be sure to watch your back from now on. You never know what to expect from some one like that. I hope it gets better for you at work. God bless you, Annette