To Cary Godwin and Everyone too

Hey Cary, i guess since we have been given the go-ahead, I just wanted to say that I was the one that sent you things. I am very sorry that I did not send to you anything last month, and I dont think that i will have any resources to send you anything this month either, but I would like to extend the offer that if you need any cards or anything after the month of july, that I would be willing to make them for you. I make them for every occasion. and now for my update I guess that you can add me to the ever growing list of post-op divorces. I admit that I am not the most emotionally stable person in the world and when I need help, I now ask for it.(learning from my OD incident back in febuary) Last month I was having serious thoughts of repeting my OD incident, but aking sure it worked this time. I noticed the signs that I was headed down that road of thinking and sought inpatient therapy, at the end of the weekend of, i was told that hubby was filing for divorce. I guess that I really could have seen this as something that was coming, I have a lot of issues that I need to work on personally, and its something that I cannot do in a relationship. though we have some really rough moments sometimes, as is generally customary in these situations, we still agree that the best thing for our daughter is that we remain friends and I intend on doing so. As of July 1st, I will be making the big move to Okalhoma. I am sure that this is going to be a culture shock for me in a sense that I have gotten used to having so many conveniences within walking distance, and now I am moving to the middle of BFE to this farm with an assload of horses and land. . . hey at least i get to ride whenever i wish, right? I still dont know whats in store for me in terms of the rest of my life, all I know is that i have found a source of strength, and I intend on keeping hold of that thru this lifetime and thru many more to come. So, best wishes to all of my friends that I have made here, and to those that used to like me and no longer do, sorry to have let you down . . . Cheers.

Hi! I just want you to know that I am thinking of you. Don't ever think that anyone here is completely "normal". We all have some type of issues in our life that we also deal with. You are not alone there. Divorce is never easy. I have not been divorced myself however, grew up in a home where my mother was married 4 times. Take this time to focus on you and your daughter. Find out who you are now and go from there. I happen to live in BFE and LOVE IT!!!!! You will be suprised at the peace you will find in the quite. I happen to love it. I wish you luck and don't leave OH. Keep posting so we can see how you are doing. Take care and God's Blessings to you! Di

Sending you positive vibes. I only wish you the best and I am thankful that you found a source of strength. You are a very unique and interesting person....never lose that. I hope that you will still be able to keep in touch. Nancy

Heather~ You rock! A divorce is rough, no denying that, but it does not mean that life is over, it hurts really abd but just like all wounds, a broken heart will heal with time. I will be thinking of you, and wish you the best. You have always been a great person to me! ~Sandy Ps.........Why Oklahoma?

Because the wind comes right behind the rain in Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh-kalhoma . . . seriously tho, I am planning a really huge party for april of next year in sudbury canada, sort of a HLP, (heather liberation party--as my friends that are hosting it say) , am waiting that long cause i need to say up some serious bank for it, But well, its going to be fun, and I have been told that I can do an entire set with one of the bands on their matinee, so im stoked to say the least. i have a friend in oklahoma that has a place with some extra rooms and they have offered to let me stay there really cheap and help me find a job in exchange for helping around the 'farm' with the horses and such.

Sorry to hear of the divorce and problems you have been dealing with. Hugs, Cheryl

Heather i'm sorry to hear of all your sadness. I wish there was something i could do to help you. Your daughter needs you, keep positive thoughts for her. I've never been to oklahoma, but i hope you enjoy it there. I am so surprised at all the divorces here on the board, i hope it doesn't happen to me. If you need me you know you can call. as for the ppl who liked you and now don't , they must not have taken the time to see the wonderful person that you are. Hugs Linda

Hey girl- I am on the divorce train with you. Mine was final in April. Life has been an amazing journey for me, this is now the happiest that I have ever been. Everything will be ok and you will find the new path in life to take. No one nows exactly what the future holds. I believe everything happens for a reason, your young and have a whole lifetime ahead of you. One thing I realize as far as what ppl think of you and what not.... is that IF you live your life the way everyone else wants you too, you wouldn't be you. I hear several opinions now on what ppl think of my divorce, me being engaged already, etc. Well I got some great words of wisdom about that. LOL My GodFather told me everyone has an A-hole and everyone has opinions...but every A-hole always has their opinion. LOL -Lauri B

hey thanks, the way i heard it was: Opinions are like a-holes, everyone has one and they are usually full of **** that being said, i think one of the reasons things are coming to a head like they are is cause of the fact that he seems to think that i have to bend who I am and kiss ass just to make things go the way they should, and I personally think thats a load of BS. ugghh, to say the least. well i will be sure to post when I make it and am settled in oklahoma