worried about failure

Just wondering. I am worried about having the surgery and FAILING. What if I go through all of this and hardly lose any weight? that would be so horrible. If I follow the rules of the program is there any chance I will end up with a very small weight loss, like 30 lbs or something? I weigh 257 now, and I am only 5'1" so I am very round, want to lose about 125 lbs. Do others of you worry about that? Or am I just a crazy girl? I am pretty near my approval now, and so excited!!

A common fear Linda. And once you lose it, you might worry that it'll come back (like past experiences for many here). It was a huge step for me to toss out my clothes that I shrunk out of because what if I needed them again? If you follow the rules, you'll do great. The place where some folks trip up is they test the waters with carbs/sugar and if they find they don't dump you really have to work at self-control. Most feel that dumping is a good thing because it's a behavior restraint built into your body. KP and some others here focus on food with the mentality that food is now fuel, not your friend. It's a good approach in my opinion. Good luck in your journey. Sheryl In the Zoo

Hi Linda, A very common question indeed...I wouldn't worry for a minute that you won't lose it....but I will tell you you do have to work at keeping it off eventually. No going back to the bad habits. I'm two and a half years out and have slipped somewhat in the past half a year, and I've gained some back and now struggling to lose it again. Best advice? Don't test the waters with sugar and lots of carbs again. You don't need them, you won't even crave them really....I was going thru some major stress in my life recently and let my guard down and fell into some bad habits for a while, and now I am working at straightening it out again. Didn't really even "want" any of it, but the old "crutches" of eating wrong popped back up, like they used to do in the past. It's just the mental thing we battle. The THREE BIG RULES FOR SUCCESS: Getting your protein in, your fluids in, and your exercise. Follow these and you will positively be successful. You'll do great, I have no doubt! And at your starting weight, you should do super!!!! It's exciting, life-changing, and I'd do it over again in a heartbeat! The thing is...the tool is always with you, so even though I have "slipped" a little, I can get back on track and lose again! So don't worry, you will do fabulously! Best of luck to you! Theresa

Linda, You sound like you are about like me. I am 5'2 and 235 and very worried about failing as well. I am also waiting for my approval. I think my surgery date will be early May. It is nice to find someone that is at teh same spot as me in this journey. Let's keep in touch! Janet

thanks for your reply Janet. Where are you having your surgery? And what kind? I am having the RNY, hopefully by Lap. I have to either get a new psyche evaluation or have 8 weeks of nutritional counseling before the dr I went to will approve my psyche eval. Dr. Kams office (he is my surgeon at the Barix in Ypsilanti) did tell me that I can get a 2nd opinion on my evaluatlion so I am trying to set that up. If that goes through I probably will have my surgery in May too. I sure hope so, I don't want to waste another summer being FAT. And I am fatter now than last year so it is even worse. I live in Swartz Creek, where are you? I just retired from being a state worker. And it is heavenly. Now if I can get healthy and looking good I will really enjoy my retirement. I am single (divorced) and live alone with my dog. I do a lot of artsy stuff and have a great time. I am hoping to do a lot of traveling with my friends once I can move around easier, and walk farther etc. What are your cir****tances?

I live in Paw Paw, MI near Kalamazoo. My surgeon is Dr. Wood in Warren (21/2 hours away). I am having the micro/mini pouch done laprascopically. Dr. Wood invented this mini pouch, so I feel very comfortable with him. I am married, 3 years in July with no children, but plenty of furry friends. I have 4 cats (Griffin, Sydney, Mouse and Bear), 1 dog (an irish setter named Bailey), a bearded dragon (Blaze) and a guinea pig (Bumpa). My pets are my kids. Maybe in a year or two I might have a baby. I just like my life the way it is now. I am an elementary school teacher currently on disbility due to back pain and surgery. I miss teaching a great deal but I'm using this time to get my master's degree online, get rid of this weight and get my back better. I am going to be 35 this month. So, those are my cir****tances. We are at different places in our lives, but we have this weight issue and surgery in common. Let's keep in touch. My email is [email protected]. Do you have instant messenger? I have both yahoo and msn. Let me know and we can chat that way. Nice chatting with you and good luck.