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Hi all, I just wanted to let everyone know that the more I read everyone's stories the more addicted I become. I just can't stop reading these stories. I'm literally in here for hours reading. My eyes go buggy and blurry but I just have to read these stories. They give me so much hope. I know I'm part of something good here. Ah wait a minute not "good", Great! I know I have a long way to go before I can have surgery but being here and getting to know all of you makes the wait for my new life all that much better. I have to admit something though. I am terrified about loosing all this weight. What will I do with myself when I can finally move without pain. Will I be able to go back to work? God I hope so. I miss being a fire fighter/ paramedic. Will my wife still love me? She's only known me heavy. Maybe I'm thinking too much. I do have a tendency to do that. I love this site and thank you all for being here. Jeremy

Hi Jeremy I spent a year and a half on this site before i was finally approved and had surgery. I am glad it took so long for approval, i got to learn so much more and be more determined to lose the weight. i was so addicted, i was on morning to night time looking at profiles and looking at the before and after pics. I was also obsessed, it's all i talked about and everyone here at home was so sick of hearing it. I didn't work for five years because of my weight, i was barely walking even, never went outside or did anything with my kids. But now, i am able to work full time, play , bike ride, and even roller skate with my kids. I have so much energy, that sometimes i have to stop because i tire my kids out . Of course your wife will still love you. My husband is so in love with me now, it's like we've only been together a short time. But we've been together 14 years, and he is my biggest fan. So keep doing your research and try to get out and walk. I know it's hard, but do your best to be ready for surgery, it will make the recovery easier. Hugs Linda 360/168/?

Hi Jeremy: I can sure think of a lot worse places to be...lol. For me, my approval process went fairly quickly and I remember that the couple of days before surgery I was absolutely glued to the screen...as in 24/7. Anyways, I'm glad you are here and learning more about WLS. Best of luck to you! Maria W.

Jeremy, I do have some advice for your wife. You both should go to counseling together so she understands how your life will change and that you will become a more independent, free spirit, doing things that you could never do before. I only say this because I am now going through a horrible divorce after 12 years of marriage and 3 kids. The first year after surgery was the best year of our marriage in my opinion. My husband was so wonderful, proud and supportive. However, the following year I became so active and felt like I wanted to accomplish so many things that I just never thought possible being a heavy person. I have always stayed at home with my babies and wanted to finally get my degree and pursue a career to help our future. I also wanted to work on my music since I am a vocalist. He just couldn't handle the new changes in me and for years I never did anything, just did the mom thing and had no zest for life. I tried to get him to continue with counseling but to no avail and so he left last August and has no desire to a family anymore. I am so devestated and for my kids too. He rarely sees them. I'm not telling you this to scare you, I just think there is alot that you and your spouse need to talk about before you have this surgery. You will expereince so many things on your weight loss journey, things we call "Aha Moments". these may seem small and trivial to others but to us they are real big moments in our lives. Jealousy can really reak havic in your relationships so if your wife fully understands and accepts the changes that you will experience then you should make it through just fine honey. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Maybe the next time I go home we can get together for coffee or something ok. Have a blessed day and good luck on this wonderful journey. Susan

Jeremy, I have had many of the same thoughts. My husband married me at what was my heaviest,, until our 2 kids came along, and so I asked him last night how this will change us. He laughed and said he supports me because he cant wait for us to do more together and with the kids. Its okay, in my opinion, to be scared of changing...I know I am....but for me, what it comes down to, Im more afraid to stay the same, and not live life to the fullest with my family. I wish you and your wife, the best. Kathryn